my husband just walked out on pay day and took all the money with him. my landlord said that if the bill isnt paid today she is evicting us and i dont work cause of a manicly depressed kid. how do i save my family?
2007-03-09 06:11:58 · 14 answers · asked by wlfbelcher 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i dont think that one or two of you understand my son is in counceling and is on meds he has tried suicide 3 times and is violent to others and cant be put into daycare he is 14 and his jo told me that if i am not home then i am abusing him cause of his needs. my husband isnt their father and he didnt quit work he quit us
2007-03-09 06:23:53 · update #1
Call your department of social services, and start making different plans for your future.
There should be a woman's group around that can talk to you.
2007-03-09 06:14:18 · answer #1 · answered by akristel2003 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to see if you have a helpline in your area this is a number you can call in which they can provide you with assistance with rent, utilities maybe food and clothing. They should be able to give you a number to a place where your child may go for daycare. ( even if he is Manic ) there are special needs daycares. You will have to find yourself employment. You might want to check around and see if you can get on with a place where you can do data entry from home. Call DHS and see about food stamps and child assistance. Then call legal aide and see what your rights are against him to get some child support and spousal support.
AND getting evicted is a 30 day process. She can's say she is evicting you if it isnt paid today. She has take this process through the court systems. So do not let her bully you. You might check with your church. Sometimes they will help in situations such as yours.
Stay strong I went through this with my ex husband same thing he left me with rent due and all bills needing to be paid.
Good luck.
2007-03-09 06:23:19 · answer #2 · answered by MissT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold it there! . You need to protect yourself right away with a lawyer (they work pro-bono also at Catholic Charities, or other similar places). In many states, if you have a child, it is very difficult for a landlord to evict you, as Judge will look after welfare of children first. Get legal counsel now!
Now, show good will, and try to talk to landlord, maybe you could do some work for him/her (is it a building? ) in order to pay your rent. Good Luck!!
2007-03-09 06:20:45 · answer #3 · answered by GrandMamma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact an attorney right away. In most states a landlord can't kick you out without a 30 notice.
Then contact your family for some financial help.
Good luck!
2007-03-09 06:16:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well id say forget bout the husband for one thing and on to u.....well isnt there some family members that u could stay w for a short while till u get back on your feet........and bout the kid isnt there some place kidnda like a day care that could possibly watch him or her while u worked if someone n the family wouldnt let u stay.........cuz im sure if they did someone would valuntere to watch the kid while u got a job but like i said im not married but one of my cuzins fiances left on pay day and took off and she not w him anymore and thats the best thing she did for her and her kids but i wouldnt got back w ur husband if i were u cuz if he truly loved you then he wouldnve left u like he did (keep that in mind please)
2007-03-09 06:24:04 · answer #5 · answered by Shi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You go to dss and get the kid into therapy and file abandonment charges on your husband.Sounds like you have a lot of problems, you might want to go to family counseling and get your husband to go if he will.This will take courage and self honesty on EVERYBODY'S part including your own.
2007-03-09 06:18:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel sorry for you as I could only say one thing, be strong and call for your close relatives to help. If they refuse, negotiate with your landlord to give you ample time to move. Then let your friends know about this, ask their favour and please get ready to change your life for the better!
2007-03-09 06:26:22 · answer #7 · answered by GOOGOOGAAGAA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
several options:
a)Seek rent aid from an association like United Board of Missions (UBM)
b)If you have a nice body - Go strip...they always do well on the first night....just dont start doing meth.
c) Borrow the cash and tell your husband that he better find a job in the next two weeks, you dont care if it flipping burgers
2007-03-09 06:15:43 · answer #8 · answered by xtaticlyme 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Try as much as you can to get in touch with your husband, alert the police about him, and try to get a temporary job, if you can. Apply for a loan. Good luck!
2007-03-09 06:15:39 · answer #9 · answered by Saartje 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she does evict you you should have 30 days. contact a local church or community outreach they should be able to help you some how. good luck to you & just remember everything happens for a reason.
2007-03-09 06:17:05 · answer #10 · answered by tire chick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋