My sister is geting divorced.
He is my brother in law now, he will be my________
Still brother in law, exbrother in law, nothing?
For my children, would he still be considered thier uncle, or does he become an ex-uncle, or what? Are they still his neice/nefew?
2007-03-09 06:04:17 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Actually I think it makes my sister inceadibly mad if I even phone him, she feels "I might be ganging up" (I was just trying to establish an independant relationship)
Anyway, for the purpose of this question I meant Logically/legally/as per dictionary definition, as opposed to what/how should I ethically treat him, as for all intents and purposes he will always be called an uncle by my kids no mater what.
2007-03-09 06:30:05 · update #1
It is up to the individual relationship with the ex. There is no law saying that he would still be their uncle unless you chose to continue that relationship. If it is not an amicable divorce, I would stay out of it and terminate the relationship in order to avoid any problems with your sister.
2007-03-09 06:15:00 · answer #1 · answered by Tink 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he is a good guy to the kids and they love him, then I would suggest keeping in touch with him for the kids sake. They could still continue to call him uncle even though "legally" he wouldn't be unless he would prefer them calling him something else. I have people in my life that I call "aunt" and "uncle" that are no relation at all to me. I do it out of respect because I have known them since childhood. I guess you should talk to your sister too and make sure she isn't going to be angry if you keep in touch. If she understands that its your kids though, it shouldn't be an issue.
2007-03-09 06:14:10 · answer #2 · answered by itsjustme 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think the answer depends on you and your soon to be ex -bro in law.
My brother's ex wife is still one of my best friends and still Aunt to my daughter - 10 years later. It is up to the individuals.
2007-03-09 06:07:53 · answer #3 · answered by MI 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is tough. when my bro got divorced from his wife my boys still called her aunt. when my sisinlaw got divorced from her husband, the boys still wanted to call him uncle. they dont ever see him anymore but when they talk about their cousins going to to their dads they say they are going to uncle _____'s. I think it is totally up to you and him in what is comfortable. Good luck!
2007-03-09 06:13:42 · answer #4 · answered by ESTamez 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He'll always be their uncle. Just depends on how involved in their lives he wants to be after they divorce but always still their uncle.
2007-03-09 06:25:25 · answer #5 · answered by T C 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think its possible as long as the realtionship is maintained. People dont realize how traumatizing it is when kids lose relatives to divorce.
2007-03-09 06:17:29 · answer #6 · answered by Devdude 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but usually your kids won't see the guy, anyway.
2007-03-09 08:00:24 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋