how do i become popular at school? i am cool but not popular.?

Answer 1

Ah! You may be much more popular than you think you are, really! I've had people come back years later, and say, I remember you! And even tell me about specific things that happened, like stuff I did, and everything.

I'll tell you a powerful secret. Learn everybodies names. Use them all to start with, with a nice friendly hello. K?

Then, with all the ones you are sure you know and are on good terms with, don't use they're name so often. Let them say hello to you first.

That way you make sure you are not just "name dropping", using them to improve things for yourself. They will trust you cause they will know that, too.

And waiting till they say hello first, is just well...Not kissing, let's say, up to them, you know?

It's only saying, I like you. I also have my own power source, and I don't depend on you.
Either you like me, or you don't, but it's gonna be you're free choice to make. And seeing that you are already considered Kool, seems like they have made it in you're favor already!

Answer 2

Just be yourself!!! I know you probably hear this all the time, but take that advice to heart. You know I just graduated college and from my experience and lots of other peoples experiences this is what I found to be true:

You will not even think about, talk to, or have anything to do with 95% of these people you go to school with now after graduation.

These people you want to be like, these people you think are so popular are going to be the ones that don't have a pot to piss in after high school. They will be looking at you and envying your life.

You'll be much happier in knowing that just being cool and not particularly popular has saved you from giving into the peer pressure that leads to teenage pregnancy, drunk driving, and many nights hunched over princess porcelain...

So just be you and you will definitely be all right and believe me----I think you're cool already!!!!

Answer 3

If you really want to become popular then you have to do something or create an image that spurs envy from other people. Somehow date one of the popular guys/girls, become really outstanding in a sport, have the parents that are OK with having parties at your house.... the possibilities are endless. Once this happens then the people that are deemed "cool" will take interest in you and invite them into their group. It's not the smartest way to go about things but it works.

Answer 4

Who determines your popularity? A bunch of 16 year olds? Tough crowd. The ones who's respect you're trying to get will be the biggest losers in 10 years anyway. Best bet is just to be yourself. Participate in school activities that you enjoy doing and work hard at getting good grades.
High school is soooo over-rated honey. But in general, when getting along with people consider this: "To help save face, shut the bottom half". In otherwords, think about what you're gonna say first and ask yourself if it's gonna help people like you.
Work on your relationships with friends and family too, they're the ones that REALLY count.

Answer 5

I know you don't want to hear this but after you graduate it all means nothing. Most of the people that were popular in my high school went on to do nothing with there lives. Most of the girls got married and pregnant way too young and did not get to enjoy those great years between 18-24.
Just relax and be yourself

Answer 6

In my personal opinion, it's best that you are cool than popular. Like other people say, popularity is really fickle and doesn't really mean as much in the long run. Everyone may like you one day, but then they will be talking **** behind your back the next day. But, when you're cool, you have people's respect all the time and there is less pressure. ^_^

Answer 7

Why are you trying to become popular? If you have to actually change yourself or do something drastic to become popular, then it's not a good idea.

Last year, I remember changing everything about me so I could be popular. I couldn't show them who I really was; they didn't like the real me. So instead of realizing that this was a really bad idea, I morphed myself into what they wanted me to be.

Don't turn yourself into a pretzel so people will appreciate you, or so you'll become popular. If you have to do anything to get more friends (besides introducing yourself...etc. you know), then they're not worth your time. Be nice to everyone, and don't put yourself into one group.

The popular girls in my grade have NEVER stepped out to make new friends. They're only friends with each other, and they treat people like dirt. They've never let anyone else into the group, because ofcourse, no one will ever reach up to their "great" standards.

You're better off finding real people that really want to be your friends. Just the other day, I was sitting at lunch, and there's a girl named Ashtyn in my grade. She's a popular girl that's really awful to everyone. One girl that's friends with Katherine (another popular brat), told me that Kat (Katherine), Alex, and Tori didn't like her. That's supposedly her "posse", and I was being told they couldn't stand her.

So it just goes to show that they pretended to like her, but actually went around talking about it. I'm telling you- it's FAKE. They're all fake. You don't wanna become someone like that, trust me. I hope everything works out okay, and you find real friends.

Answer 8

Seriously, i think being loud really helps. Just outgoing and cool with everybody. Remember not to act like you are desperate to be popular that you'll do anything the popular kids tell you to. That's pathetic.

Answer 9

I don't care about being popular so I'm just gonna tell u one thing, be yourself and u might become popular.

Answer 10

Don't be fooled by steriotypes because its stupid. Someday at you will be at your reunion at everyone popular will be fat, old looking, or ugly! So just be popular within your friends cause you never know when you may loose them because you became high-up or in a popular case to low on the chain! Then you've lost everything. Stay yourself...no one likes a POSER!