if we were friends I am not talking about a relationship and you found out I was gay how would you react to me
2007-03-09 05:59:53 · 34 answers · asked by carolyn g 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I'd welcome you to the team. No way I would have any problem with this. You might want to ask this in the straight sections of the forums though because you'll find a log of answers like mine here. I'm going to assume you are afraid of telling a friend that you're gay. A real friend will accept you for what you are and have no problem with it. I lost a lot of friends when I came out of the closet but if they don't support me and who I am then they weren't real friends in the first place. Good luck to you = )
2007-03-09 06:10:57 · answer #1 · answered by Jenn 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would say "Congratulations!" as I am gay myself. However, if you mean that you have come out to a friend who has been less than accepting then this is sadly a normal reaction. You soon find out who your true friends are. Most people have been OK with me, but you will always get some people who aren't OK about it. Sometimes that person can be close to you & then that hurts. Your friend may get over it with time, it might just have been a bit of a shock. It depends how strong your friendship is & whether or not your friend thinks it is worth fighting for. Give it time & see if things change, otherwise you'll have to move on. Good luck.
2007-03-09 22:33:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would make no difference to me at all.
People are people. I love all my friends, straight, gay, bisexual, whatever.
I think straight people who are freaked out when they find out someone is gay possibly have some issues with their own sexual orientation.
BTW I'm straight, married, 4 kids, 2 grandkids.
And last year I was a Matron of Honour at a gay wedding in Holland (which I think is the only country where gay people can marry on exactly the same terms as straight people, rather than having "civil partnerships").
2007-03-09 06:09:04 · answer #3 · answered by mcfifi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter "Came out" about 1O years ago now, at the age of 18. A shock, maybe, or did I see it coming? Cannot rightly say. Knee jerk reactions - or thoughts, oh my god, my husbands vision of walking her up the aisle was rubbed out, grand children - nil. But upon reflection, she had not grown horns, turned purple, killed anyone, turned to drugs!
If her only act was to love another human being of the same sex, hey!? I do not pretend to UNDERSTAND it, but I accept it, simply because I love her very much, she is a wonderful person, and . She now lives with her partner in USA, manager of a trucking company, works as a paramedic at weekends, and has given me two wonderful grandchildren! Their doting father is gay also. (Work that one out for your self) I don't care, I just love them all to bits.
She is what she is and I am very proud of her and if people have any problem with that, as far as I am concerned it THEIR problem! You do not have to live a lie - go and have a HAPPY life, you only get one chance. x
2007-03-09 08:09:34 · answer #4 · answered by SUPER-GLITCH 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should I treat you any differently to any other woman.
People I have worked with have been gay, but it made no odds.
Please don't take offence, but I do wish though that gay people would not keep going on about being gay. After all us hetrosexuals, don't keep going round saying that we are hetrosexual. Why do people have to categorise themselves all the time. We are all human beings.
Its all getting to be like an old gramaphone record.
2007-03-09 06:11:14 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt react at all. two of my mates came out to me as gay and were surprised when I didnt react - i really dont see what difference it makes to a friendship or why people dont just tell you from the beginning
2007-03-09 06:04:42 · answer #6 · answered by G*I*M*P 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
React isn't the word I'd use,respond would be a better choice of word and I would respond just as I always had. Sexuality doesn't or shouldn't affect a friendship based on lot's of shared memory's or interests
2007-03-09 06:05:20 · answer #7 · answered by snikleback 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would treat you no differently than before. One can never have too many friends and sexual orientation should no have a bearing on the friendship. If someone is bothered by it, then they weren't a true friend to start with.
2007-03-09 08:05:11 · answer #8 · answered by marilynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends will always be friends. But friends also have to respect each other. Be whatever you want, but if your friend doesn't lean that way, you have to respect that. Don't try to flaunt in front of her, after all, a real friend would have told her, she wouldn't have to "find out".
2007-03-09 06:19:15 · answer #9 · answered by Lori F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be supportive of you and help you out in what ever way you wanted or needed for you to feel more confident. But you should know this is coming from some one who is bi not straight and paranoid.
2007-03-09 06:08:14 · answer #10 · answered by Michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋