I get upset when my brother and his family don't call or visit. If a friend doesn't email me or call me for awhile my feelings get hurt. I don't get to see my husband all week because he works and goes to school full time and I want to lay out of work on Fri. when he doesn't have to go to school. It's almost as if no one wants to be around me. I'm starting to feel bad every time I do something to be with them almost like I'm to clingy or needy. What can I do to avoid being and feeling this way?
2007-03-09 05:48:54 · 11 answers · asked by lilmama 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I have 3 kids so anything I do I will have to do with them. I love them, but sometimes feel I need adult contact too. I think that's why I start to feel a little needy.
2007-03-09 06:00:18 · update #1
I can relate, cause' I've got 2 kids, which I home school, so there's not much adult time for me either. Here's the deal....my husbands family lives nearby and they never call,or come by. It's like this.......life is what you make of it, exercise, spend time outside, do cool activities with your kids, get a new hobby, basically anything that makes you feel good. I know friends can hurt your feelings, but if you have your own things to do, you understand a little bit more (being busy yourself) and you will definitely be less needy! Sorry your having a hard time, I hope this helps.
2007-03-09 06:10:03 · answer #1 · answered by Green eyed girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to learn to love yourself honey. Find yourself a hobby of some sort. Get outside and admire the birds and trees. No one will love you if you don't love yourself. Why do you want to stop work? That is a good place to maintain contact with people.
Other people have their own lives to lead, and you can't be expected to be No. 1 in everyones life. Don't take it to heart so much.
Be confident honey.
2007-03-09 05:56:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it seems to me you miss them very much. you don't see much of them during the week, so you want every chance you get . they don't see it this way they see it as I'm tired, i have this to do, i need to catch up on this. so your feelings get hurt, you feel hurt like know one cares about you. when really it's not about you, they may need help with something like an Arron, laundry,groceries,dinner,etc. so ask if there is something you can do for them you know that they are busy, and you are there if they need help. even to quiz on a test. and if all else fails get a hobby do something crafty, paint take a class in something you always wanted to do. donate time at the hospital etc
2007-03-09 06:07:35 · answer #3 · answered by sassy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel cause I tend to be the same way. But I just decided if I wanted to talk to someone I'd just call them instead of waiting for them to call me and I took up a hobby and realized people have lives and I'm not the center of it and that's ok.
2007-03-09 06:23:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to find something that occupies your time. What are the things that interest you? Maybe take a fun class at a local college. Your husband and family are important but they have lives too.
2007-03-09 05:56:27 · answer #5 · answered by m k 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make yourself busy. See yourself as the most important person in the world. Value your time and spend time with people who give importance to you.
2007-03-09 05:52:12 · answer #6 · answered by uniqueness 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
call your friends don't wait for them to call you. and tell your husband he needs to spend more time with you he loves you he will understand if it doesn't change your feelings then maybe you should talk to you doctor it sounds like you could be depressed
2007-03-09 05:54:15 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why don't you get a job, or do volunteer work. like this you dont get bored and you could set your mind on something else until you can spend time with your husband
2007-03-09 05:53:38 · answer #8 · answered by fuehrer45 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could find a hobby or something, something that you can do alone that you will look forward to doing when you get alone time.
thats what i did, and now being alone when everyone is busy aint so bad :)
2007-03-09 05:53:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being dependant on other people. Go out and do something for yourself.
2007-03-09 05:52:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋