I love buying presents for my wife. I buy her clothes. She takes then back. I got her Valentines flowers one time. She complained about their quality due to the fact that "everybody" gets some on that day. I ask her if she wanted a bookcase for her study room. She said she didn't need one. Next thing I know she is thanking her parents for the bookcase they got her. Wasn't I good enough? I have to do the Christmas shopping for everyone (we have two kids) if they want gifts because she doesn't want to be materialistic. She then commences to take back my son's LEGO set and my daugther's doll house kit that I was going to build her. She complains that I didn't go to the right store to pick up groceries and complained that I got some goodies of my own (Everyone needs to enjoy a candy bar now and then). I love taking the kids to see movies and they like it too. She complains about the bad influence (I only take then to see G-rated). I would love to buy her earrings (the hoops)- she says NO!
2007-03-09 05:37:12 · 15 answers · asked by prouddaddy 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would say do not buy her anything anymore.
Then, tell her not to return gifts that you buy for the children. You obviously buy them this stuff because you want them to have it. She has no right to take their gifts away from them and return them. That's just plain cruel.
Was she this tacky before you married her??
2007-03-09 05:48:37 · answer #1 · answered by JAMES O 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If she doesn't want you buying her stuff - don't buy her anything, what's the big deal? I ask my husband not to buy me anything - because he simply can't possibly choose exactly what I would like, and I would rather do it myself. No biggie! For the holidays, I usually give him a very specific list of the items I want, just to take the guess-work out of it for him. I ask him to not buy me flowers - they don't do anything for me; I prefer going out to dinner. Are you guys on a tight budget? If you're not, I don't know why she complains about you getting stuff for the kids or for yourself. My husband gets himself whatever he wants, and I have no problem with it - even when it's something I don't feel we *really* need; because, thankfully, we make enough money to pay the bills, put some away, and allow ourselves some extravagance every now and then. But if the choice is to pay for groceries or pay for the lego set - well, it's a no-brainer.
The best present you can give your wife is to be patient with her, and to tolerate her quirks. Stop focusing on the negatives, and start appreciating the positives. Good luck.
2007-03-09 06:31:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel really bad for you because you sound like something that is very rare, a really good guy, and it also looks like your wife might be something that rhymes with witch Try asking her why she is so negative all the time perhaps she enjoys complaining. I would stop getting her anything and tell her she never likes what you do so she should go grocery shoping and everything herself until she can appreciate what you have been doing .
2007-03-09 05:59:02 · answer #3 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds very practical. Okay, my guess is you feel loved when you receive small gifts (doesn't have to be big, maybe even a gesture). She doesn't feel loved that way, so stop trying that. Get the book "Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman, Ph.D. Read it together. Help her see that this is the way you feel love, let her identify for you how she feels love. Once you learn hers, do it. You'll notice a difference.
The mistake you're making is in thinking that your spouse receives love the same way you do. She doesn't. Get the book and enjoy better communication of love to one another.
2007-03-09 05:52:40 · answer #4 · answered by Dino 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like agag for her is the first gift for her you might enjoy.
Man this is simple, Talk to her about the nagging, if that doesn't work, suggest counseling, if that doesn't work go to an atty.
in that order
2007-03-09 05:44:53 · answer #5 · answered by walker9842 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get yourself a girlfriend and buy the gifts for her....when your wife finds out, she'll change her mind about wanting things from you....
2007-03-09 06:04:18 · answer #6 · answered by Johnna L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geez she sounds horrible she should read"The proper care and feeding of husbands" By Dr.Laura Schlesinger. She sounds like acontrol freak feminist, she has no use for you my freind just to have HER kids. I'm very sorry.
2007-03-09 05:44:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. My wife used to do the same thing until I stopped buying her things.
2007-03-09 05:47:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me no matter what you do , it is not good enough for her.you are the man of the house do not let her push you around.take care of the kids only, and take care of yourself , sounds to me like you give , give and give and get nothing but grief in return. the next time you decide to get her something , also get her a dildo , that way if she doesnt appreciate your gift she can go f*** herself.
2007-03-09 05:48:07 · answer #9 · answered by Tommy D 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
There is a book out there called Love Languages. Material things are your way of expressing love, it is not hers. You need to figure out hers and express your love to her in that way...it could be physical, communicative, etc....Good luck!
2007-03-09 05:41:17 · answer #10 · answered by Li 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋