I know that it's bad....but what i am asking is if he never told you until it was like six months in the relationship and he has already bought yoou things and taken you on trips....should you feel guilty or should he be more at fault for not only adultery but going against his religion by loving another man?
2007-03-09 05:34:11 · 57 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Jer-ry!! Jer-ry!! Jer-ry!!
Why are you being such a ho? Leave the guy alone. Gross.
2007-03-09 05:37:43 · answer #1 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are not only a adulterer, you are a big liar. You are a woman and you mean to tell me that you didn't have some hint that this man was married? You just put that part in there thinking that everyone was gonna think you was tricked. If he is a minister, the first thing you are gonna know is that he's married. Please lady, you got to know that there are people that can see thru crap. What is it, your conscience finally getting to you? Or do you want to set him up by writing this, because you have fallen for him and you want him to yourself? Think about it, if the wife finds out and dump his nasty @ss and beat yours to a pulp, what do you think he's gonna do to you, 6 months into the relationship now, that means your sluttiness is getting old now, so don't cry when it's another sister turn in the church. You are not going against his religion, because he doesn't have any religion. Both of you, are going to hell. Just because he is perpetrating a minister, the sheet is gonna be pulled off the both of you. I hope the embarrassment is well worth it. When the chips fall, his wife is gonna stick by him and you will be the known as '' the home recking witch''. Why was the first thing you spoke about is what he's bought you, buy your own things and stop being a church house prostitute.
2007-03-15 14:18:52 · answer #2 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well things happen and he is very wrong for doing things like that he does know better i don't care what he says. when you say i do that means you don't any more. I think you need to end it very soon and pray about it. I have been there but he was not a minister,and i new the whole he was married in the beginning and when he won't ed to leave his family for me i just could not do it any more because i guess that i new the whole time it was wrong. since i have done that with him and one other one God as made sure that i learned my lesson and i would never do it again.
2007-03-16 21:51:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say the man if he hadn't told you about being married you shouldn't feel guilty BUT when you found out you should have wanted to end it because he cheated on you also if he wasn't telling you.And the man CANNOT be trusted if he is a minister and having affairs.he is cheating and lying to his family and his church and you and to God.So you have already established that he is a cheater and lire so WHY would you even want to waste your time with this man ????If you feel you are in love with him you have fell in love with a fake ID.It's not even really him.So count your losses get over the hurt and move on.Take some you time to heal and hopefully you can heal and move on.Good luck.Please don't feel Guilty he should be the one to feel guilty.Oh by the way I AM not for gay relations but do understand that you probably do have feelings for this man But am not agreeing that the relation as right.So good luck the man is a waste of your time.
2007-03-16 17:31:24 · answer #4 · answered by anntanner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! he is going to answer to God, and caused someone else to stumble, this man know's he's wrong, If you didn't know before that's different, if your a christian,? and slept with him then u already blew it, but if you just had fun and he took u on trips and bought your gifts, fine then.you didn't know he was married, but somehow I don't believe that, we women have a sence, but let's say you didn't know, fine, for then
But now is another day you now know he is Married, (stop)
the question is: would you want your husband to cheat on you your not only hurting another Lady but 2 children also, Remember what ever you sow so you will reap,
what everyone says is if it feels good do it
I say if it feels even just a Little wrong, stay far away, run cause it will come back and get you.
2007-03-17 00:13:12 · answer #5 · answered by busybobbie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you are wrong for seeing a married man w/ 2 kids
Regardless of when he told you, you now know and have no excuses for continuing. should you feel guilty? Most would, those w/ compassion for others (his wife and kids). Who is more at fault is an irrelevent question... you are both adults. Don't minimize your role in this. You are wrong and would be wrong even if it was a woman you were fooling around with.
2007-03-16 04:46:34 · answer #6 · answered by Dani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's at fault and you're an idiot. The life of being gay is seeking to hook up and doing that over and over. Do you think you have given him anything that he might be passing on to his wife - do you ever indulge in perfomance sex with strangers, as so many gays do ?
He's bought you things and taken you on trips. In return, you've essentially masturbated him in various ways. Wow. What a deal for him. I'll bet he has to work a lot harder with his wife to show emotional involvement.
Yes, he's wrong and so are you. Move on to the next gay bar and leave him alone. There are choices in life, too. If I were you, I'd reconsider your choice to lead a gay life style. What you have just described is just about as good as it gets for you and that's pathetic. Look forward to more of the same.
2007-03-14 02:24:31 · answer #7 · answered by kathyw 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow! If you didn't know for six months then you cannot be held at fault, but now that you do, I would certainly break it off. The man sounds like a real hypocrite, an amoral ahole that is not worthy to wear the cloth. Should you not report him to the church authorities? One question - how could you not know he was married all that time? Did you attend his church? Strange.
2007-03-09 05:45:20 · answer #8 · answered by Pierre Patelin Longshanks 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes,its wrong not only is he committing adultery you are also so find some one that can give you what you really want is a single man that you want be interrupting everyone lives and yours and tell him he's wrong for what he' doing in life only
God can judge but you and he should know what the bible says
2007-03-14 10:28:08 · answer #9 · answered by maintaining 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I won't tell you your wrong. I will tell you your insane. If you knew the pain that this relationship will bring you -- you'd run for your life. Think more of yourself than to accept half of a relationship -- He will NEVER leave his wife. Less than 1% of married men leave their wives for the other woman, and of those that do -- 90% of those relationships end in divorce. Forget the guilt trip - walk away.
2007-03-16 18:12:02 · answer #10 · answered by katie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was a Man or Woman of God as in Pastor and I did that kinda thing, I would be afraid to close my eyes at night. I know he is Human, but he is also God's Servant and should know better..You are at fault also because you are commiting Adultry with a Man whom you know is married.
2007-03-15 15:47:15 · answer #11 · answered by donna_honeycutt47 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋