we try and see my boyfriends son at least once a month, but im not working, im looking for work ,and were just on his wage. when we ask to have his son she makes an excuse up and sends us txts saying if u dont do this n that you cant see him , well shes gotta realise we havnt alot of money , and we try our best to see him. what shall we do , shal we just go to court? that might stop her from sending horrible txts. she trys and make my boyfriend sound horrible and hes not i have been with him just over a year and she says she pittys me. she made my boyfriend depressd wen he was with her and hes happy with me . do you think shes jealous?
2007-03-09 05:27:51 · 6 answers · asked by sahara07 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
no i dont think shes jealous... she needs money and support for her son..something she doesnt sound like shes getting...whats you not working got to do with whether he sees his son? and why do you think you have all the info on their relationship? were you there or is that just his side of the story? i'd be annoyed too if he never saw the kid then expected me to drop everything and change plans to accomodate him when he can be bothere(or ' afford it'.) what do you think going to court will acheive? and why would you be taking her to court... i suggest you encourage your man to have a backbone and be responsible and see his son as a priority and stop making him feel like a good dad when its quite clear hes not.
2007-03-09 05:38:06 · answer #1 · answered by slsvenus 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She well may be jelouse or she could be angry that he only comes as and when there does not seem to be a fixed time he sees his son.
People and especially children need routine perhaps if you agreed a day and time and stuck to it on a regular basis she may be a bit better about things.it is no good for the son or her if he phones and says cant afford it today will come next week as that sounds from what you have written is happening and no wonder she is not pleasent.
Find a suitable day and time and stick to it regular if she does not like it then go and seek out legal advise and get it put on a proper footing it sounds as if it has never really been sorted properly.
When my ex and I split many years ago we both sat down and picked the day he saw the children every single week without fail so the children knew the routine and we could live as much a normal life as possible.
We picked a Saturday with also alternate Sunday so the children could have normal school week and life.
Good luck and you can get call bar done on phone to stop nasty text.
2007-03-09 06:03:38 · answer #2 · answered by momof3 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, just a little.
The first thing would be to make sure you have a record of all of the texts and then take this to a solicitor and ask for him to draft a letter detailing whens of all of this hostility from the ex and what it must be doing to your boyfriends' child.
This will not in itself get you his son but it will determine a track record of bad behaviour. This of course is on the assumption that every other verbal means of trying to rectify the situation has failed - it would prove the she is not allowing her child to see his father in a calm fashion and this is all happening out of spite.
Mind you, you and your boyfriend HAVE to be on your best behaviour no matter what the provocation.
Have you been?
Good luck?
2007-03-12 05:46:49 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, she jealous and bitter.
Use your citizens advice bureau to find out what you can do in the legal sense.
2007-03-09 05:32:17 · answer #4 · answered by Matt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If their wreck up replaced into presently or not that lengthy in the past, then he's purely use to her techniques and so once you're saying or do something it reminds him of her, simply by fact he's new to not being along with her and being with somebody else. So he's not thoroughly over her yet. basically simply by fact they have been jointly for a lengthy time, properly kinda lengthy time, yet they have been extreme approximately one yet another and had stronge emotions for eachother. That he in all probability by no potential felt that way with earlier. yet whilst she's definately moved on and that they not talk. at last he will relize it somewhat is over. that's what in many situations happens in case you have been jointly a lengthy time or had emotions for somebody you by no potential had earlier. in spite of if it somewhat is rude and disrespectful in direction of you too. so next time in a advantageous way say " i'm not attempting to be advise or rude, yet i don't sense gentle with you evaluating me or constantly conversing approximately your ex. I purely had to be honest with you simply by fact i in my opinion such as you alot and that i continuously prefer to be honest with you. So in case you would be able to desire to thrill attempt greater good and supply up doing that i might somewhat savour it., i come across it rude and disrespectful. i don't think of you will possibly prefer me to evaluate you to my ex and talk approximately him each and all the time. So could desire to we please talk approximately something else. (something like that , then talk approximately something else.) you may substitute it up slightly in case you prefer. yet undergo in concepts watch your tone, be extremely advantageous approximately, confer with him such as you normaly might, so he won't take it the wronge way and get mad. purely undergo in concepts " Be well mannered" approximately it. properly good success! i in my opinion wish issues artwork out for you the two. "purely Be honest" shop me as much as date i will upload you to my contacts! :) grumpy81
2016-10-17 23:20:00 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes jealous.
dont worry about it.
2007-03-09 05:34:49 · answer #6 · answered by karissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋