however i haven't yet told my parents although my friends know. i feel like i'm keeeping a big secret but i'm scared to tell mum esp incase she goes mad. I don't hold his past against him and neither should she. his daughter is part of him and his life and i accept that. i have known him for 8 months now and have been dating for 3...when should i tell my parents?
2007-03-09 05:27:45 · 16 answers · asked by Betty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
now, its no big deal !!!!
2007-03-09 05:31:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, honesty is the best policy. If your parents aren't supportive, too bad. Walk away from them and open communications when they want to be more reasonable.
The world is filled with cheating, lying, dirtbaggy people... and you can't really help it if someone that you believed in and had a kid with becomes a rotten piece of trash.
His past should not be held against him, and his daughter is worthy of love and respect. No resentment, from your parents or anyone else. You guys can make another one down the road, too ;).
2007-03-09 13:32:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why be afraid. If you've accepted his past it doesn't matter waht your mother says. As long as you know that his daughter is in his life accept it then I personally don't see the problem. Your mom is not dating him. But of course I don't know your ages. Now if he's a teeage father then I might jave something to say but if both of you are of age then fine.
2007-03-09 13:34:33 · answer #3 · answered by momseekinganswers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whenever you want to, it dosen't effect them in anyway. if u love him then thats that. their are plenty of men in the world but if u feel you have found the one for u then that is all that matters. this 2007 not 1907. Even if they dont think its a good idea,- although they are your parents and have your best interests at heart - are they really life experts who can predict the future. your futures in your hands, if you can deal with it then they HAVE to. good luck, i do understand, my girlfriend has a daughter......
2007-03-09 13:36:28 · answer #4 · answered by fethawi s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should tell them, it is you who is treating it like a secret! They will wonder why you haven't said before. Sounds as though you have accepted it so why shouldn't they? My eldest daughter has been readily accepted into my new husbands family - they love her. Go for it.
2007-03-09 13:32:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is up to you when you tell your parents.
Is your relationship serious with this man then yes you need to tell then as they are going to have to know sooner rather than later.
Have they met him yet if so then yes they need to know you cant expect your boyfriend if he come to tea not to mention somone so important in his life.
It depends on my opinion how seroius this relationship is for you.
My husband did not tell his father that I had children when we met and were going out. It was so embarrasing having to tell them myself when I made that first visit. I had no idea he had not told them and boy was i mad when we left almost split over it. I felt my children were not important to him enough to mention or he was ashamed.
Once their jaw lifted off the floor they were ok about it so please tell them before he gets to see them or mention it in conversation.
2007-03-09 14:12:12 · answer #6 · answered by momof3 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should tell your parents when you are sure this is something important in your life. if he is important to you then share it.
You are right though, it shouldn't matter that he has a child. Your mom should be happy he is involved with the child's life. That says more about who he is than anything!
2007-03-09 13:33:59 · answer #7 · answered by pink orchid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her now. It really isn't her business, and if she likes him already, that shouldn't change her mind. And if it does....it goes to show how shallow she is. No offense...but it's true. But give your mom the benefit of the doubt...tell her and see what happens. I bet she won't react the way you think she will.
2007-03-09 14:05:20 · answer #8 · answered by amanda r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now, it ´s Okay.
Here in germany the "patchwork families" are the reality.
In elementary school many kids have a single mother.
You are great.
2007-03-10 12:34:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell them i have been with my boyfriend for a year now and he has a son and wen i told my parents they were fine aboutit because they love me and know how much we both love each other. if your parents love you they will be happy for you just tell them you will feel alot better.
2007-03-09 13:35:02 · answer #10 · answered by sahara07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell them ure the one who is with the man not them if they dont like it then tough but i cant see the problem in telling them thats ure 2's business.
2007-03-13 13:11:19 · answer #11 · answered by SIAN D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋