We have been divorced for 5 and half years, for the first 3 years we agreed on summer visitation. The papers say, He gets our children between no earlier than the day school is let out ot for summer vacation, and no later the day school resumes in august, for thirty days. He tells, well his "mama" says they get the kids all summer, and thats the way it should be, (she says)but anyway, i am so tired of thinking she can run me, which i dont let her. should i take them back to court?
2007-03-09 05:22:02 · 5 answers · asked by karen j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds like it is for 30 days only, in that window of time and that can be enforced, but it may require a judges intervention. Of course he could also ask for more time with his children and be granted that. Unless the are remarkable reason not to, he'll probably get more visitation, if he pleas for it.
If there is not a good reason, though, letting him have the children all summer is probably good for the children as any child needs to bond with both parents.
With my daughter I had her 50/50 until school started (Even though the papers said summer and all holidays, it was a friendly agreement between her mom and I), then quite a lot even after she started school. All summer and most holidays and weekends. When she was about 8 she wanted to come live with me, my wife and her brother and did. No battle about it. She lived with me through high school then moved back with her mom until she married. She is very close to both of us. We remained and remain good friends and that helped.
As an adult she has thanked us both for honoring her desire to live with who she wanted and for not putting her in a position to have to choose or be in the middle of our differences. She says that no matter our not being together, she always felt like we both loved her and put her first. Divorced parents kids seldom feel that way.
We let practicality and our love for her come before what legally the paper said could be.
We strived very hard not to put her in the middle of our differences; realizing we both had the need and right to be with our child as did both sets of grandparents.
Point being. If the kids want to be there all summer with him, it is good for them, if not then you may have to try to work it out. You have the legal paper on your side, but being flex on this may be best for the kids.
Try not to get your kids, either by accident or design caught between the differences you have with your ex or ex mother-in-law. They'll end up resenting everyone.
Just something to think about.
Hope you all can work it our for the kids sake.
2007-03-09 05:54:30 · answer #1 · answered by rumbler_12 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What has been arranged by the court and signed by you and your ex is the order she cannot make it any different.
2007-03-09 13:26:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't let it get to nasty. Kids get tangled and mixed up in things like these.
2007-03-09 13:27:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no! let yourself be heard and show them them custody papers again if you have too. nobody but nobody should keep your kids away less you want them away!!!
2007-03-09 13:33:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he keeps violating the order then yes....
2007-03-09 13:25:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋