I had a relationship with a girl for 2 years and then we broke up because she had other intentions.Our families know each other pretty well.I did not talk to her for 6 months after we broke up but we still considered each other as best friends.Recently her dad was murdered and this incident has broken her into pieces.Our relationship is not legal and so I cannot meet her evn though she wants to but we both study in the same campus and I also know her friends pretty well.Sometimes we talk on phone and most of the time she feels very low because her dad was everything to her.Pls suggest me ways to make her happy and make her feel like a princess even if I cant meet her.Your help will really be appreciated.
2007-03-09 05:12:59 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I don't know whay you can't see her as a friend in need to comfort her?? It takes time to get over a death such as a father. Actually, you never get over it, you just slowly get back to a normal life, but he will always be in her heart. You may not be able to make her "happy." Just being there and talking with her (or being there and not talking) is comforting. That's the best you can offer at the time -- talking on the phone and just being there for her. She will become less and less blue over time.
2007-03-09 05:21:11 · answer #1 · answered by bernadette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy some "encouragement" kind of greeting cards and send her one every so often. Offer to be there for her if she needs someone and be there if she asks. Sometimes someone just needs a shoulder to cry on and not so many words.
I don't understand why you can't meet her. Even after my wife of 28 years called off our engagement before we were married, I still could see her at church or other places. There seems to be nothing to prevent you from meeting her, although I would make sure it was a public place if you are so worried about being "legal".
2007-03-09 13:33:37 · answer #2 · answered by Captain Cupcake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't "make" anyone feel anything. People's emotions are their own choice...we choose to be happy or not, others cannot "make" us.
Just be there and support her as a friend...even if she doesn't call on you, knowing people out there in the world care about her and want happiness for her, will mean a lot.
2007-03-09 13:18:05 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
send her pretty flowers with a card saying "I'm sorry for the previous death in your family an you love her an care for her like a sister" even if one important person that meant everything to her died there will be many more people that will care for her . oh an send her a box of chocolate. a movie that relates to her life like a lifetime movie.
2007-03-09 13:34:51 · answer #4 · answered by mexica mami 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just send this as E amil to her.
When both your families are known to each other, I do not understand why you have not consoled her personaly going to her alongwith your family.
2007-03-12 04:11:36 · answer #5 · answered by RAGHAVAN N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋