Need advice from Women.. Do you think I should try to work things out or just let things stay the way they are

Question

I just dont get it. She broke up with me because she felt that she wasn't ready for another relationship and that she has to focus with college. I respected her decision

We have class together. She has been ignoring for the first two weeks then started talking again. Somehow, I feel like she doesn't respect me. Everytime she would always talk to our friend and leave me out of the conversation. Even when we would do work together, she would only come to me when she has to.. like during lab class for help.

Recently she started being cold again and I got tired of it so i ignored her for that day. she asked me what was wrong and I confronted her about it and that I didnt care anymore. she got defensive and now we dont approach each other at all. She did however apologize afterwards online saying that she is sorry for the way she treated me, and that was it.

She is not the type that likes to play games but is somewhat shy and not expressive. I know she isnt a bad person.

The things is… I know she is probably focused on her classes right now and doesn’t know how to deal with me… My question is… Should I try to talk to her and make things work or just leave things the way they are and not speak to her… Also if you think I should speak to her again, should I give her space to figure things out and wait till later or do it as soon as possible. Thanks.

Answer 1

I think you should leave her alone. She broke up with you so she must have had prior feelings about you that she is not comfortable with. And she stated she wasn't ready for a relationship. You don't want to be the guy who forces a relationship. Because if she loved you she would be able to give you love. Evidently she's not in love with you or even want to be with you. I apologize if I come across cold. You have to let her show you that she wants to be with you, because it seems like you tried but she rejected you. Don't put yourself in a situation to where you keep getting rejecting that's turns into mental abuse. When it comes to affairs of the heart you sit back a let the woman show you how she feels.

Answer 2

For your own sanity, it would probably be best to give her the space she needs. However, since you have the opportunity of seeing her at school, I would suggest that you use that time to be polite and helpful without acting over involved. Ignoring her or treating her unkindly won't help you at all. Being a gentleman will at least afford you the opportunity of seeing if she does care for you.

If she persists in leaving you out of conversations, don't put yourself in a position where that will happen. If she continues to only show interest when you are ignoring her, it would probably be best to move on in life and find someone who will appreciate you for whom you are. Don't put yourself through unnecessary pain. Life is simply too short.

I hope this helps a little bit! Have a great day! Annie

Answer 3

Well first off, the way she treated you was unfair and immature to begin with. I think your best option would be to let her go. Why make an effort to socialize with a person who would pointedly ignore you? Granted she may have a lot on her plate right now, but that doesn't give her the right to treat you this way. I say let her come to you in the future if she needs to talk. Don't go to her any longer, you will just end up being hurt. Good Luck

Answer 4

Sounds like she's trying to figure out how to handle you as an ex and as a classmate. Try to give her some space. If she treats you poorly, leave her be. If she wants to pursue a friendship, then it will be on her end. Unfortunately, you need to make the ultimate decision on whether or not she is worth keeping as a friend in the long run.

Answer 5

she's just confused, i think and have legit reason that she wanted to concentrate on her studies, try to concentrate on yours and try not to talk to her for a while but dont ignore her, but try to be out of her way so u wont get offended when she doesnt talk to you, she wants space give it to her, and dont take it personally or think that you have done wrong...with us women, when we feel that we are on the verge of losing our loved one for real, if we still care, we will try some things to hold on to you..but if in her case she doesnt feel that way anymore...it will be a different story, for me if a person breaks up with someone, unless the other party believes that he/she was doing it because of something wrong that was done by the other party, it has to be respected. people fall out of love, they lose interest, fact of life, accept it.

Answer 6

Give her some time, if she really wants to talk to you, she'll come to you. She might be trying to figure something out, so don't interrupt the process by going to her. Good Luck!