how do i get the support? who do i talk to?
2007-03-09 05:06:41 · 14 answers · asked by Victoria Ann 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Vicky, I'm very sorry for your situation. Hopefully, it will be corrected soon. We are often slow to learn about love and responsibility, and people do things (or don't do things without thinking).
First, you should contact your husband and tell what your need is, and ask for a quick response.
If he fails to respond, I believe that if you contact his immediate commanding officer, he will convince him of his responsibility, without having to resort to legal action.
2007-03-09 05:13:19 · answer #1 · answered by Calvin James Hammer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you are. Believe me I'm a US Army soldier, deployed to Iraq, and all married couples get paid extra for having a spouse. If you are seperated for more than 30 days, then he will also be paid "family sepration pay". None the less if you are living off post with him then he is getting paid BAH (Basic Housing Allowance). There is a lot of things the Army pays married couples for. If he isn't sharing any of the funds with you, I'd suggest going to talk to his First Sergeant or company commander. One of those two men or women will settle it almost as fast as youcan blink. If your husband is deployed then those two people will be deployed with him. Then you will have to talk to the FRG (Family Readiness Group). I'm not sure if it's called that everywhere, but thats what my unit calls it. Usually the wives/husbands of the company commander, First Sergeant, Sergeant Major, or Battalion Commander are in this group. Above all, if no one else can help you these people can. Good luck and best wishes.
2007-03-09 05:22:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Had the same problem. 1st start with writing a letter to his commanding officer (they should have already allocated funds for family support) if your not getting it let him know. If that doesn't work go to the army Chaplin - they have more power then you think. I personally skipped that and went straight to my state senator (just called the office) find out which of your senators for your state handles military affairs. Within 2 weeks of speaking with my senator I had a check in the mail and an apology. Also got a letter from my fathers child explaining how much grief he got for not following through with the support order.
Good luck, but you should have no problems.
2007-03-09 05:14:01 · answer #3 · answered by michele_zanella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he signed up for direct deposit of his check? Aren't you listed as a co-owner of the checking account? If not, the account will be frozen if he is KIA and you can't access the funds. Have him contact USAA Federal Savings Bank at www.usaa.com to set up a free 4star checking account and you can pay bills on-line. They also have auto and renters insurance to cover your property. I don't understand how you can't be getting any money since the Army also pays a certain amount each month to support a family in addition to his salary. Do you live on post? Shop at the PX and Commissary? Have him go to his finance officer to find out what is going on if everything else isn't working. If that doesn't work, go to his CO.
2007-03-09 05:24:51 · answer #4 · answered by Captain Cupcake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-30 10:48:44 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen sweet thing, talk to another adult about this in the chain of command that is willing to help. YES! You definitely are supposed to be getting support. Check it out as soon as possible!
2007-03-09 05:12:12 · answer #6 · answered by Inquisitive 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he need financial support? Do you have a power of attorney? If not forget trying to do anything in his name. If you are short and need a small amount of cash for groceries or whatever go to the chaplain.
2007-03-09 05:14:28 · answer #7 · answered by code name siren 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unreal!!! A married man not supporting his wife???
You need to speak to him!! ask where the hell the money is going and how you can get some off it. He may not realise that you are struggling.
2007-03-09 05:12:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES.
Get in contact with legal office at the nearest Army base, and it helps to know your spouses SS#. Make sure you have proof of the marriage when you do go talk to someone.
Its in the UCMJ.
2007-03-09 05:15:25 · answer #9 · answered by Crystal Rene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have children yes, if not move on, get a job and emotionally support him because he is brave enough to join the military in this day and age!
2007-03-09 05:12:23 · answer #10 · answered by tom2day 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋