I had an abortion a few months ago. I regret it more then anything. I cry almost everyday wishing i wouldnt have done that.I was just a lil scared being a mother right now at age 18. But im wanting to try again and keep the child. I really want another chance to have a baby again. But Im a lil scared i cant get pregnant. cuz it took me two yrs to get preg before!
2007-03-09 05:05:19 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
I'm so sorry for your loss.
First of all, you need to allow yourself to grieve. You made a choice and now you know it was wrong. But you still lost a baby and have a right to grieve for that.
Abortion can make future pregnancies more difficult and conceiving sometimes more complicated. That doesn't mean you are guaranteed problems though.
http://www.abortionessay.com/files/choice.html
http://afterabortion.info/Survey2.htm
http://www.hopeafterabortion.com/ (this one especially)
My prayers and thoughts are with you.
2007-03-09 05:13:51 · answer #1 · answered by Kari 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first off, do you have a steady guy in your life because you need to have a stable life to bring a child into. I understand you want a baby, but they need a good environment where it can get the attention needed. I only say that because you are younger and I think you should really step back and look at the big picture, you have plenty of years to have a baby.
But were you on the pill before when you got pregnant? That might have been why it took so long. Although sometimes for whatever reason you just don't get pregnant. Do you party a lot, i.e. drink and/or do drugs? That can make it harder too.
I personally don't think you will have any problems if you try again, but just think about it before you make any big decisions, because that is one of the biggest decisions you will ever make. Good luck.
2007-03-09 13:12:52 · answer #2 · answered by leslieann 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well there is one thing I know once you have been pregnant before you will get pregnant again very soon, I too had an abortion that I regreted and thought I should make it up to myself by having another child, well truth is you'll never forget that 1st one but, and I thought i wouldnt have any more kids but Im pregnant now and its exactly the same time I concieved last time, just try to forgive yourself and take time, dont worry you will have more children.
2007-03-09 13:47:18 · answer #3 · answered by divalicious4eva 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To tell you the truth, you may have problems getting pregnant again. You need to visit a gynecologist and see what your possibilities are. At the moment, though, it sounds more like you need mental and emotional healing from your abortion. The reason you maybe want to get pregnant again right now is because you regret what you did. You may need to see a counselor to get closure from your abortion. Also, there is a service called Project Rachel that is specifically for people who have had abortions to come to terms with it. You might want to look in to it. Website: http://www.hopeafterabortion.com/rachel/
2007-03-09 13:14:09 · answer #4 · answered by maddie1979 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly I want to say that what could have possibly changed over the course of a few months that makes you ready to be a parent now? If you are really serious about conceiving start charting your ovulation by either purchasing a ovulation prediction kit from the pharmacy, or researching the signs of ovulation on the internet or the library. You could also look into natural remedies that assist with your chances of conception like fish oil and evening primrose oil.
2007-03-09 13:40:55 · answer #5 · answered by themomma 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why would you start trying to get pregnant at 16 if you weren't ready at 18? that doesn't make sense. and just b/c your have bad feelings about your abortion you shouldn't be thinking about having a baby. maybe you should try counseling. being pregnant is a bunch of mixed emotions, hormones up and down, and worries about can i be a good parent, am i ready, and being scared of giving birth. if you have problems going on before getting pregnant why add more problems. have you ever heard of post-pardum depression? the feelings you have now plus normal pregnancies problems could send you over the edge. maybe you should wait and get yourself together before having a child.
2007-03-09 13:14:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are 18 years old and you were trying to get pregnant at 16?....No-No-No-No-Noooo You are way too young.. enjoy life. No need to have a child now, you will get another opportunity as you get older... Things happen.. you weren't ready a few months ago... and you made a decision, I know its hard.. but what makes you ready now after a few months, is it guilt?.... Focus on your future for now.
2007-03-09 13:17:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got an abortion and now want to get pregnant again?!?! In my opinion a person like you does not deserve children. You got pregnant and decided it was inconvenient at the time and aborted.
2007-03-09 16:26:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm so sorry for your loss.
First of all, you need to allow yourself to grieve. You made a choice and now you know it was wrong. But you still lost a baby and have a right to grieve for that.
2007-03-09 13:41:22 · answer #9 · answered by baby gurl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You do not deserve the chance to get pregnant again!
2007-03-09 13:09:00 · answer #10 · answered by The Don 4 · 0⤊ 5⤋