i have 1 baby,i have suffered 2 miscarriages and we are trying to get pregnant again,any advice??

Question

i had a d/c to complete my last miscarriage two years ago,i haven't been on bc since then,and i'm still not pregnant,i'm getting very worried that ican't have any more children and i really want them......

Answer 1

If you've been trying to conceive for the past two years and haven't gotten pregant during that time, it's time to consult a specialist, miscarriages or no miscarriages. Most healthy couples with no underlying fertility issues will conceive within 12 months; some take longer, some don't take as long. If a woman under 35 years of age has been trying for one year and hasn't conceived, it's time to see a fertility specialist; for a woman older than 35 the recommendation is that 6 months of trying is enough, then see a fertility specialist.

What happened with your miscarriages? By that I mean, was any testing done on the tissue after your D&C? How far along were you and was there anything specific found or suspected? Were your miscarriages consecutive or close together in time? Until fairly recently as these things go, doctors waited until a woman had 3 consecutive miscarriages before doing any testing (I don't mean testing of any tissue, but testing on the woman to see if there was any identifiable problem that could be causing the miscarriages). Now, however, many (maybe most) doctors will do testing after 2 consecutive losses. There is various bloodwork to check for certain immuno- or clotting issues, hormone levels, etc. Also, a hsg (hysterosalpingogram, if memory serves): dye is run through your fallopian tubes to check for any blockage (in addition, evidence suggests that the hsg itself can be beneficial because it can, essentially, "clean you out").

Miscarriages are awful, and, sadly, all too common. I lost 6 pregnancies and underwent fertility treatments -- it's taken me hours to get back to this answer because my twins keep me pretty busy! But, I've known many women who had a few miscarriages and went on to have additional healthy children without any medical intervention at all. One of my friends gave birth to a healthy daughter two weeks ago, after having three miscarriages after giving birth to her first daughter.

Anyway, at bottom, it seems that there are (potentially) two related issues: your miscarriages; and, the fact that (as I read your question) you've been trying to get pregnant and haven't (and have been trying for longer than a year). I really suggest you get a referral to meet with a reproductive endocrinologist, although your OB can certainly run some of the tests. (That said, an RE might want to do the tests herself/himself, in which case you run the risk of having to duplicate tests if you have your OB do them in the first place.)

Hope this makes sense. I've written it in bits and pieces. I am truly sorry for you miscarriages and the difficulty you're having getting pregnant, and hope you have a healthy, full term pregnancy very soon.

ETA I don't know how hard you've been "trying," but if you haven't been using ovulation kits/tests and/or charting your cycles, it may be a matter of bad timing. I you want to be really laid back about it, just try having sex every other day, begining the second week of your cycle and continuing until you get your next period. If you want to be a little more...involved (for lack of a better word), I highly recommend that you take a look at the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility, by Toni Weschler, which is the veritable bible on such things.

Answer 2

My deepest sympathy on the loss of your other babies. I had three miscarriages and 2 successful pregnancies over 5 years so I have some idea of the stress you must be feeling...as hard as it sounds you just have to try to relax and not "try" to get pregnant. Stress and the resulting hormones can interfere. Have your doctor make sure there is no physical reason like low sperm or hormones and then enjoy the child you have and try to be patient and you can consider adoption if you really want to expand your family.

Answer 3

If you constantly think about it, and it consumes your mind, it wont happen. I had two healthy babies, and ive been married to their step dad for 5 years. We tried and tried and tried and nothing happened. The only thing i could think about was having another baby. As i was ready to give up, i met with my dr and made an appointment to have my tubes tied, I thought it was never going to happen and i pretty much gave up. A week after that appointment i found out i was pregnant. Im now 25 weeks pregnant. Try to relax and forget about it. Thats what we did and we became pregnant right away. Try having sex on the10, 12,14,16,18 of each month. If you do this your going to ovulate on one of these days :) You usually do 14 days after the start of your period. Sperm can live for 5 days. Its amazing how much relaxing can do. And if nothing else, see your OB/GYN and ask him whats going on, im sure he will be able to answer better for you and help you through all of this. I wish you guys luck :)

Answer 4

Yes their is still a chance. i no its hard but worrying can sometimes make it hard to get pregnant. Have you been to doctors yet? They can give you advice and offer you tests.Then their are many things they can do to help. Although the fact you have had a baby means that the chances are that it wont be any serious problems.

Answer 5

You need a doctor that specializes in high risk pregnancy. He will keep you monitored and it you get pregnant he let you know what to do to keep. You may end up on bedrest and you must be willing to do so.
I also worked with a woman once who had this same problem and she had some procedure performed on her to help. It was a while ago, but I think they called it "boot strap". Hope that helps.

Answer 6

You really should see a doctor for testing. If you really want to get pregnant, your doctor will be able to discuss all of your options.


If all else fails, why not adopt? The adoption system is FULL of children in desperate need of homes.

Answer 7

i have 1 kid and suffered 3 miscarriages. 2 before our kid and 1 after. i would suggest a complete exam of, not just you, but also your hubby. have his genes checked if there are any abnormalities.

Answer 8

First of all,you should talk with your doctor and not look for advice on here about something like this.Thought about adoption?Or maybe you should be thankful for the healthy baby you have and stop trying to conceive.

Answer 9

TAKE Prenatel Vitamine NOW...Folic acid Is a Big help

Answer 10

don't worry, my friend has a history similar to yuo, she tried a lot, and she is pregnant now. you still have the chance to get pregnant,I thimk you'd better to see your gynecologist. s/he will advise you assisted reproductive techniques (ART)if needed.