I don't want my friend to quit school...what could i say for her to stay in school?...Or should she just quit?

Question

she is in the 10th grade...passing 1 class and failing 3...i have been trying to help her with her work but she just wants to give up...

Answer 1

it sounds like there's more to that. she must be going through something or something is wrong if she's failing 3 classes and passing 1. that's still not a reason to quit. I know people who had the same problem and they just worked harder to graduate. i don't think she can quit unless her parents let her and i know most parents wouldn't let their kids do that. maybe she should try getting a tutor or stay after school and get some help in her hard subjects. But i wouldn't let her quit. A GED is good enough, but she may regret not getting to walk with her class at graduation and missing out on all the fun things seniors get to do. so i'd try and encourage her to stay in school and get some help.

Answer 2

She really should speak w/ the guidance counselor at school to see if she may have a learning disability that's preventing her from completing her schoolwork to her teachers' standards. For being in 10th grade, I would advise her to NOT give up! Tell her that she's gotten through school this long and she needs to just stick it out and finish the next few years. My s/i/l quit b/c she got pregnant and it took her years to finally get her GED. I've also had other friends quit school and every single one of them wishes they had just stuck it out and gotten their diploma. As an employer, I tend to shy away from those w/ a GED b/c in my eyes it says to me that that person is a quitter and doesn't follow throught w/ what's assigned to them. There are certain instances that I take into consideration, but just to quit b/c you're failing is not a good thing to include on a job application or resume. 10th grade was one of the toughest years for me, but my 11th and 12th grade years were a total breeze!!! (Well, except for my Trig/Pre-Calculus class in 11th. How I passed that, I'll never know!) I've also heard of some schools allow their students to get their diploma early, but they need to test out of school first. There IS a light at the end of the tunnel, so I would strongly try to convince your friend to just stick it out!

Answer 3

Look up the statistics of wages earned by people without a high school education and people without a college education and then do the comparisons against somebody who does graduate from college to somebody who does not. It may be ammunition for your argument to see what percentage the differences are in a lifetime. Staggering! You may be helping her, but the motivation needs to come from within her own desire. Is she experiencing trouble with friends at school, home life or other major relationship problems? Sometimes people go through brief depressions, lack motivation, etc, due to stress from their surroundings. The key word is "brief". This is a short period in a lifetime, and she should not make rash decisions that will effect her whole life. Every day you awake,it is a new day, a new beginning and a chance to make it better for others around you and yourself.

Answer 4

You need to know why she's quitting school. Is it because the peer pressure is too much for her? Does she feel threatened by her classmates who did much better than her? Talk to her and make her see the importance of education. Don't focus on the "negative" aspects of school. You can remind her that there's more to school than just studying and classes. School is all about enrichment and experience. Make her realize that if she can't cope with the pressures of school, she won't be able to cope with her working environment in the future. In the meantime, make sure that you are always at her side encouraging her. Eventually she will see that there is at least one person who still wants to see her succeed and that will be the driving force for her to continue.

Answer 5

The best you can do is to be there for her, try and to attempt to help her. You should not encourage her to give up though, because you wouldn't want your friend to fail in school and for life. You honestly are being a little selfish, ask yourself what you would do if you were in her situation. You may see it as an easy answer, but try on her size of shoes for once.

Answer 6

The hardest part is getting through high school. Once you get through that, things become easier......unless you've blown your education by quiting too early. If she wants to have a decent life with a secure job and a decent paycheck, she NEEDS to stay there and complete what she has started. Otherwise she may always see herself as a quitter, and will probably always have lower pay scale jobs. And she had better learn to say "do you want fries with that?"

Answer 7

for me, this is so hard to answer. cos many people just think school is God. i am one person that can relate with your friend's situation. i tried so so hard to get thru college, setting a record in the process. Still i didn't make it thru.

i think what your friend needs is to learn what she can concentrate on.

this means she has to find a school where she will be taught something that she really likes, and in the process she'll get to learn other seemingly important things such as math and language.

what should you say to her. ''don't quit school totally, just find a school for what you like. If you guys are in the U.S it should be easier than for most of us here in africa.''

Answer 8

Ok lots of it depends on how close you are to this friend... If yall are close then just give her words of encouragement but don't be all like I can't belive you going to drop out thats not good and just like judging her just be there...be a friend and hopefully she will work it out with some of your couching

Answer 9

I would continue to encourage her however is her decision. You can tell her how hard her life could be if she doesn't have the education needed. Also let her know she is smart enough to do it and offer to help her if you can w/ the homework. HTH

Answer 10

explain to her wat happens to school dropouts or if it helps watch a movie on it if she still doesnt listen just tell that she could be something and she doesnt wanna end up a junkiedoes she?