I've been with my boyfriend for over 5 months. I'm having problems. I love him more than anything in this world but it feels like he's getting mad over little stuff. We've had our arguments but this one is just.. irking me. If thats even a word. He's getting mad because I leave hearts [♥ like on Myspace] on comments to my ex's. I dont like my any of my ex's. He says he doesnt want to be the jealous b/f but he seems like he's acting like it. I dont want to loose him over small stuff but he just makes me sad sometimes. He's worried about one of my ex's. I was thinking about his ex while I was with my b/f. Me & my b/f broke u for about.. 22 hours. I'm trying to put that behind me but everytime my b/f hears that name of my ex, he gets all upset/mad again. I really wish we could put it behind us, it was one of my stupid mistakes & I told him I was sorry. I dont want to go through all this stuff again. I love him more than I'v ever loved anyone else, why wont he believe me? Help!!!!!!
2007-03-09 04:52:09 · 9 answers · asked by ElizabethKay™ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I dont want to dump him. We've gotten through everything else & I know we can get through this. The hearts were by my name, not part of what I was saying to the person. As for the ex, I'm trying not to associate with him anymore. He calls me & stuff but I dont answer. I hate being mean but I kow if I talk to my ex, it'll be more problems with my bf.
2007-03-09 05:35:20 · update #1
"I love him more than anything in this world"....he believes you. However, he still maybe hurt over the situation. Even if he has/will forgive you of it-he will never forget...You see his actions as jealousy...but he sees his actions as more like protecting his interest and his relationship. You are expecting him to give you leeway when it comes to communicating with your ex's, however this is akward for him...what if he did the same to his ex's- you'd be a bit aloof as well. "I really wish we could put it behind us,I love him more than I'v ever loved anyone else"-In order to put it behind you, you must go through it...there's no way around it. You obviously care about him so just talk to him, ask him what he expects of you and in return tell him what you expect of him...go from there. problems in relationships have more to do with not understanding each other.
2007-03-09 05:07:06 · answer #1 · answered by MrMeT00 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok if u do love your b/f than maybe u shouldn't leave hearts on your ex's page... a normal comment can be left too w/o one... try not to talk about your ex or even mention him - i had a bf who did the same thing and its best just to leave that stuff alone... you have to understand where your bf is coming from too... you are his gf now and you saying tht u love him and then going on your ex's page and leaving hearts and all tht doesn't play well in his mind.. some guys just have peeves about that kind of stuff.. so if you really do love him and want to stay w/ him i suggest tht you not talk about your ex's so much ..
2007-03-09 04:57:51 · answer #2 · answered by chi_twnchica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to admit once you lose trust its hard to earn it and causes him to be suspicous. Now you two have to talk and come to an agreement. Compromise. Know ing leaving hearts and things for your x's on myspace makes him mad dont. That doesnt mean you have to stop talk ing to them but it in a way he wont feel threatened. You both have to respect each other's feeling and have respect for one another and if you love each other like u say it should not be hard to work this out. Remember Sacrifice and Compromise also compassion and consideration is the key here.
2007-03-09 05:13:04 · answer #3 · answered by Im da Example 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gosh,. i know what you're going through and believe me, it's a headache. your boyfriend probably feels the same way about you and when you keep mentioning the name of your ex's, what do you expect from him as an answer? he may feel upset because you keep talking about another guy, when the only guy you 'love' is infront of you!
okay, us girls (and i admit i tend to have word vomit more often than not) if you feel that he's really overeacting over really 'small' things... then i think you two won't last that long, no offense girl. but you need to find a guy who has high tolerance with the way you talk about your life. you wouldn't feel comfortable talking to him anymore because you keep choosing the 'right' words he wants to hear. you don't want that, right? you'd rather express yourself fully whether your boyfriend wants it or not.
2007-03-09 05:10:14 · answer #4 · answered by Zaire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ex's are Exs for a reason.. why are you still in contact with them..? Also why are you putting little ♥ on comments to your exs- are you still interested in them or are you just trying to make your current BF jelous..?
I have not stayed in contact with any of my exs and neither has my fiancee. I think if you want things to work out with your BF you need to let go of your Exs and move on...
2007-03-09 05:01:03 · answer #5 · answered by stephanie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him
2007-03-09 04:56:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him..i mean if he gets mad n upset he prolly has something to hide...if he doesnt trust u he prolly doesnt trust himself...MOVE on
2007-03-09 05:00:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you a 5lut!! you shouldnt talk about your ex anyway and why you sending your EX'S hearts?? you leading them all on!! not cool at all!!
2007-03-09 04:58:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you love him..show it ..Love is better proved tahan expressed in words.
2007-03-09 04:56:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋