Do you think relationships are comparable to drugs like alcohol and cigs for starters?

Question

I tell you , I have had so many unpleasant experiences with people (mainly player women , ( I am drawn to them for some reason))

And friends too. I think it is best to stay single and just keep it light. Actually light relationships can be very personal due to their lack of pregidous from bad expereinces together.

Answer 1

Hmm I used to be a relationship phobe, well guess I still am! But since I've been with my new bloke (2months or so) i've actually been thinking of changing my ways. I used to think ciggarettes and alcahol were good, and ALL men where bad and only good for one thing.
Us so called 'player women' don't do it purposely, we're just as insecure as those blokes who get about! It makes people feel good to be liked by lots of people. And this is generally why people cheat and commit adultery, although obviously there are lots of reasons, the number one is that we all want to feel close to somebody. If this isn't working and we don't feel loved, wanted and fulfilled a lot of people will simply find someone else to fill the gaps!
My new guy is different though he treats me good and I trust him 99% which is saying something! I mean I went through about 12 blokes since my last boyfriend 3 years ago (no im not a slag!) but it is hard to find someone you click with!
Not all relationships are productive, in fact many can just be downright destructive! If you don't like someone for themselves then don't get into any kind of relationship with them (friendly or sexual), it won't work out in the long run
Keep trying, good luck and maybe try and have a think about where those other relationships went wrong?
So yeah relationships r comparable to ciggarettes and alcahol, all three are good!

Answer 2

Yes, relationships can be compared to drugs. They are literally addictive: neurologists can see this in the brain. A good relationship will leave you hart broken - when it ends - because a person dies. It's literally withdrawal.

BUT, unlike addiction to cigarettes, it's not healthy to do without relationships. People are made to be together. Though there are exceptions (meditating monks in the Indian wilderness for instance), for most people community is what keeps them happy (or happy-ish).

For psychologists its a sign of health to have one or two friendships / relationships where you can talk about just about anything.

Do not take the above as a reason to just find a girl and get married, whether the relationship works or not. Bad relationships are literally unhealthy. It's better to be alone then in a bad relationships. Do take this to mean that a good relationship is worth fighting for - even when there are rocky spots.

On a personal note: it may be worthwhile to find out why you are drawn to 'player women'. That's a pattern you do need to break (as you've obviously realized) . Your instinct to keep it 'cool' for a bit, may help while you sort yourself out.

Answer 3

Falling in love has got to be the best high ever! We naturally attract people like us. All you need to do is filter out the players and you will find nice people. x

Answer 4

some people have addictive personalities--we are able to develop into hooked on something--alongside with yet another guy or woman. this could finally end up like the action picture, "deadly attraction," in severe situations. some people are attracted to all issues that are risky and/or exciting, i.e., gamers, smokes, booze, and so on. A male kin member of mine is in love with a woman for numerous YEARS--on a similar time as she is going out with all of us on the city, and in fact in simple terms makes use of him whilst she has no longer something extra perfect to do. And, he accepts that--understanding it particularly is going to in basic terms carry discomfort. i don't be attentive to that informal, no-string deals are from now on perfect for us--no longer with STDs, and so on. to think of approximately. additionally, people pick people--and in simple terms drifting from stray to stray is not any style of emotional convenience.

Answer 5

you must understand that human relationship is beyond
compare.