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2007-03-09 04:13:57 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
It is a hard time for the 2 year old. The first month was rough for our 2 1/2 year old when we brought our new baby home. He was used to having us to himself and now he had to share. On top of that, we were tired. You could give your 2 year old a gift from the baby and your 2 year old could help pick out something for his/her new sibling. Also, involve your older one as much as possible. Let him/her watch as you change diapers or tickle the baby's toes or hold the baby (with your help, of course).
2007-03-09 04:22:22 · answer #1 · answered by mom2beof3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how u feel, I have a 3 yr old & a 4 month old, both girls. I was worried about the same thing, but the best thing u can do is not push the fact that ur having another baby on her, just tell her & ask her how she feels about it, & then forget it. If she brings it up great, answer any questions she has, & be as honest as u can be with 2 yr old. But the thing is she's not really gonna' comprehend that there is goignt o ba a baby until she gets here. IF she seems interested once the baby moves & ucan see it & feel it about 7-8 moths have her feel it, but if she doesn't want to don't push her. These are things my OB said when I ask him & he told me from personal experience of his own with 5 kids. My 3 yr old was 2 when I was pregnant with my baby. But to add how she is now, she's great with her little sister. She always wants to help, & hold her & talk to her & sing to her, & u shoudl do the same, if she wants to let her. That way she won't see the baby as someone she can't be around or associate with. Right now I'm having issues with spending enough time with my 3 yr old so she won't feel left out or jealous. Don't try to spend a lot more time than u normally do with ur daughter before the baby is born, that way she will be able to adjust when the baby is born. But as far as helping goes, let her get a diaper, help do baby's laundry, "help" hold the bottles. THat type of thing.
2007-03-09 12:32:48 · answer #2 · answered by jadynzmd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is 19 months older than my son, so my kids are closer in age than yours will be. Your older child should be able to be more help to you than mine was in the beginning!
One of the things that my daughter likes about being a big sister is being able to help with her little brother by bringing me things -- diapers, burp cloths, blankets, whatever. It makes her feel helpful and gets her involved.
Also, I gave my daughter her own new baby doll when our second child was born so that she could change her baby's diaper while I changed the new baby, etc. It turns out she's not very maternal and would rather swing her baby around by the legs at times, but it was a nice gesture and occassionally she likes to play "mommy". She even tried to breastfeed her babydoll a few times!
Potty training will be interesting; I've heard that you should not attempt to potty train a child less than 6 months prior to or for at least 6 months after the birth of a sibling. The new baby might be a setback in the potty training department, so be prepared for that.
Two other little bits of advice I've picked up: 1) refer to the new baby as "our" baby or as "your little brother/sister" to try to assign ownership, and 2) be careful how you word things -- for instance, instead of "I can't get you more juice right now because I'm feeding the baby", try "I can get you more juice in 10 minutes" or "Daddy can get you more juice right now". In other words, try not to point to the baby when things can't work out the way she wants them to. This can help lessen resentment.
My two have already become best friends at 14 months and 33 months. They hug and kiss each other and are USUALLY very close. It's hard to imagine that someday not long from now they will start having "sibling wars"!
Good luck!
2007-03-09 23:53:33 · answer #3 · answered by calliope_13731 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy your little girl a doll and some doll things like a stoller or bed for baby and some clothes and show her to take good care of her"baby' then you can sat Momma gonna have a baby too!! You will be a big sister!! yeah!!
2007-03-09 12:18:15 · answer #4 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep her involved in everything like picking out stuff for her new brother/ sister or decorating the room, get her to feel the baby and talk to her. When I had my 2nd my daughter was 3 and she took to her so well. Plus its also good to have mommy daughter time (even if its to get groceries) so she doesnt feel left out like the baby gets all the attention.
2007-03-09 12:24:40 · answer #5 · answered by DeeLicious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk with the 2 year old about the baby, have her feel you tummy, and let her know that you still love her, even if there is another one coming.
2007-03-09 12:20:24 · answer #6 · answered by chasier1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a baby doll that cries so ur daughter gets used to it
2007-03-09 12:16:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋