How do I confront friends that I suspect of having an affair?

Question

I currently have a friend who is deployed to Iraq and he left his wife behind. Now one of my friends and his wife are unseperatable. Shopping, sleeping, hanging out with each other as much as they can. Things that never went on when the husband was around. Myself and several other friends suspect there might be something going on between them. How do I confront this issue?

Answer 1

SIT DOWN WITH YOUR FRIEND BY THEMSELVES WITH NOONE ELSE AROUND AND TALK TO THAT PERSON ABOUT IT. JUST LET THEM KNOW HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT IT.

Answer 2

There is not going to be any easy way to do this if that's what your looking for. It sounds like your accusation has its merits, but she is going to be very offended as well as defensive probably whether or not its true. And you may lose your friendship over it. But if you feel its the right thing to do, then you are indeed a loyal friend to your boy overseas, and he is lucky to have you. You're going to have to be blunt about it you may not want to go alone either, take another person who shares your concerns and confront here. Just tell her your concerned about the situation, and how it looks to others. Ask her bluntly if there is anything going on, ask her how she thinks her husband would feel to learn she was spending so much time with another man. If you cant do it then just cut out a giant A in red paper and stick it to here she will get the picture (j/k).

Answer 3

Be honest about your concerns. Let them know that others are starting percieve their friendship as more and you wanted them to know so they can try to fix the situation before someone tells her husband they are having an affair when they may not be.

If they are having an affair, this is not a good situation. Be honest about your feelings and tell her she needs to tell her husband or someone else is going to.

Answer 4

Do nothing. You have no responsibility to this and you aren't her chastity belt. These things have a funny way of blowing up in their faces without any help from you or your friends.
besides...you run the risk of having her husband turn off to you if you make an accusation like this and she convinces him otherwise.
Let it slide man...let it slide.

Answer 5

It's kind of none of your business. Many soldiers know there is a possibility that their wives will be unfaithful. If they got married anyway, it's the "for worse" consequence they deserve.

'Myself and several other friends suspect there might be something going on between them.' It's "Several other friends and I suspect" not myself. 'Myself' is being overused nowadays.

Answer 6

please don't tell your friend about this while he's
away. before he left,he probably had an idea things weren't right with him and his wife. you can tell them what you think about them,but i doubt it's going to do any good. see what happen's when he comes home. does his wife leave him,or act like everything is fine? then i would confront her,and let her know that you know,and she better tell him the truth.

Answer 7

As adults it is their business if they choose to act this way, however if you must, then confront your local friend but leave your friend's wife alone. She is not your responsibility.

Answer 8

You don't. Who are you to judge? They are both adults and do not need your advise on how to screw up both their lives. If you can't handle not saying anything, then move to a new group of friends. It is none of your business.

Answer 9

Ask them both in a joking way and see how they react. If they brush it off then ask them separately and see their reactions. If they are having an affair you'll know.

Answer 10

Break off your friendship if their activities are distasteful to you.
If she questions your rejection BE honest.
Otherwise it is none of your business

Answer 11

None of your business.