I like this really hot guy colleage,
but hes always flirting with women.
i have made my attempts to SHOW HIM I LIKE HIM,he did seem to be attracted to me.
the BALL IS NOW IN HIS COURT,
Why wont he ASK ME OUT?
why wont even he call me?
2007-03-09 04:09:18 · 13 answers · asked by swept away 1 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Alot of guys are bashful and 'hide behind flirting, but not following through due to fear of rejection. I was that way for years. I thought a girl liked me and I would flirt with her but that's as far as I would go. I was shy and bashful. Do you both a favor and "ask" him out. Say something like there's this movie I want to see but I don't want to go alone, will you go with me? Or, have you ever eaten at------ I was wanting to try it out, how about you and I go Friday night. Don't ask if he's busy, just ask him in a way your really telling him what you two are going to do. Be agressive, sort of, in a nice way.I hope this helps and e-mail me if it works.
2007-03-09 04:19:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find over time that men are becoming less aggressive & women more so. A lot of men are shy, although if he flirts with women then it doesn't seem as though he's shy. Sometimes men (& women too for that matter) feel more comfortable talking to members of the opposite sex that they're not attracted to (they can be quite friendly & flirtatious) whereas they feel nervous & flustered around someone they're interested in & may even avoid them (that's what I always did! I'd wait for them to approach me & even then my heart would be pounding & I'd be nervous as hell!)
It could be anything. You won't really know unless you ask him. Rather than coming right out & asking him though you could just try flirting with him & casually lead up to suggesting a date. You could start a conversation about a movie you'd like to see & ask if he's seen it (pick a new one he wouldn't have seen yet) then ask if he'd like to go. Or suggest a restaurant or something else you'd like to check out & ask if he'd want to go with you. If he's interested, he'll bite. If not, then it's his loss & there are other fish in the sea!
Good luck!
Don't stress about it. If it's meant to be, it will be & if not, then let it go! Remember, the ball is always in your court. You control your destiny. Don't let some silly guy stress you out! He's not worth it!
2007-03-09 04:24:55 · answer #2 · answered by amp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you are in college. It's time to put puppy love behind. If he is not attracted to you there isn't to much you can do about it. If he just wants to be friends then be a friend. Don't force yourself on someone, the end result is your broken heart. Do you want to make yourself miserable? It will reflect on so much of your life. Be happy with the hand you've been given and move one. Who knows maybe just by being best buds or great friends new love could be found but in the mean time live, laugh, and have fun. Don't put your life on hold for something that might never happen.
2007-03-09 04:21:47 · answer #3 · answered by Jan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah..crush 101. He's either 1) not interested. Or 2)He is interested, but knows how to play the game. He knows that the less he appears interested in you, the more you'll like him. And it's working. Perhaps he's trying to make you jealous. You have to figure that out on your own. What helps is an outside perspective. Ask a friend what he/she thinks he's doing.
But either way, he seems to be like an ideal player to break your heart. So, why him? I'd realy ask myself that if I were you. If you still want him, I'd just play disinterested (but don't try too hard..it'll just make you look stupid or psycho!!). If he likes you, it'll flip things around. If not, then you know he wasn't interested in the first place. It's worked for me and a lot of ppl I know. Good luck!
2007-03-09 04:23:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this sounds to familiar. well, sweetie i'm going to the same situation except the guy i like doesn't flirt with other women when i'm with him. But if he cant see the signs that you like him than dont waste your time on him he is not worth. There's so many fishes in the sea. Just think your the one that got away becuase he didnt see how great you were. Just move on. i always say if you can't make a conversion with the person you like then there's no chemsitry and you should bother at all.
2007-03-09 04:21:49 · answer #5 · answered by Vanessa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might have not analyzed your feelings correctly. Love does not make one want to feel like turning around. You would only be wanting to go ahead. If that is all you too want then hang on and enjoy the wait.
If you are sure you love him may be you also love his habit of flirting and if he were to change you may find him less attractive then.
2007-03-09 04:20:15 · answer #6 · answered by smartobees 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like him so much, why don't be honest and tell him. Why don't you invite him out? Then you will know if he is interested or not. Regardless of his answer remember you are not responsible for the actions and decisions of others.
Good luck
2007-03-09 04:18:54 · answer #7 · answered by Jon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants to play around and keep you as a backup plan. Just incase things with other woman don't work out.
2007-03-09 04:30:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how do you know that he likes you.....was he flirting or just being nice? ..... i think that if he wanted to really go out with you, then he would ask you.... for goodness sakes, do not grovel, i think that turns men off....try ignoring him (for your own sake), go about your normal business at school, you cannot MAKE someone feel something that they dont.....not trying to be mean...i am just speaking from personal experience
2007-03-09 14:11:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"he is just not that into you" says the book. I believe it.
be glad he is not coming after you, otherwise your next problem would be trying to keep him from flirting with everyone else....
Go for someone else
2007-03-09 04:18:42 · answer #10 · answered by Georgie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋