OK, it seems that my friends are kind of leaving me out and i dont know what to do. Im trying soo hard. This is what I did. I invited them to a movie on friday, then saturday we went to galmor shots and had a sleepover at my house, on tuesday me and a friend hung out from 9am-6pm and went to the mall. On wednsday, we had another sleepover at my house. Now its been 3-4 weeks and none oof them has invited me to anything and then i come to school and they tlak about how they hang together all the time and they tlak about there inside jokes that they dont tell me. They are pretty nice, and they say they dont want to lose me, what should I do??
2007-03-09 03:41:49 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Tell them how you feel. If they don't listen/care, then they're not the right friends for you. I'm assuming you're in high school, so you need to know that at your age, girls are fickle. It could be a tiny reason why they haven't called you - something you didn't notice. Chances are, you'll be back in their good graces in a month. Or that they'll fight amongst themselves and one of them will come crawling back to you.
Talk to them. And if they don't give you a reason, to h e l l with them. Find some better friends - then they'll be jealous. ;)
2007-03-09 03:49:29 · answer #1 · answered by notsoswan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you even think of making friends w/anyone it is Very IMP that you figure out if their personality clashes with yours, that is, do you guys have anything in common?? Obviously, if you all are to hang out w/them there has to be a thing you all like, even at movies, there needs to a movie that meets everyone's taste! (at least a little). From what you are saying seems like you are trying really HARD which is Good, shows that you care. But after all that the way they acted seems to me like "you are being used" . I know it sounds mean and hard to accept because you think they are nice people. But nice people appreciate nice things done by even strangers!
The truth is, just nice doesn't cut it, you need to click with them. May be its just that they are ohkay to hang out with you (socialize) and do all the 'fun' stuff but according to their judgement you don't make 'one' of the group.
You don't need to get upset about it. Just let it go and may be they will realize that you are actually pretty 'cool' person to hang out with. Meanwhile, my advice is go ahead and find other people somewhere else. You don't have to work that Hard to get friends. And since you seem nice I'm sure if you try at the right place you will find some real friends.
Just remember one thing: if you are not treated 'right' now, then in the long run there is a GOOD chance that you will be disrespected (you don't want to be that person) Good Luck :)
2007-03-09 11:57:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop trying so hard to be friends with them if they were truly your friends you would be a part of the "inside" jokes as well i don't know how old you are but when i was in high school i realized that hanging with more than one friend at a time was not for me even now i have just 1 really close friends and the rest are considered associates even though i knew the associates longer than the best friend woman/girls are peculiar creatures we tend to be very opinionated and moody and we talk about one another at some point and stop speaking to each other for a while then make uo but the reltionship is never the same. to sum things up trying to keep up with too many friends is more trouble than it is worth when you find that connection with that person(s) that you cna really trust you will know and that will be your true friend
2007-03-09 11:57:35 · answer #3 · answered by miss-ee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they say that they don't want to lose you but yet they dont invite you to do nething. Then its not like you r really there to lose is it? Heres an idea. Act like you dont care. Try to get someone else to talk to or hang with for a while. If they really dont want to lose you then once they see that your unavailable they will make an attempt to hang. Dont answer the phone when they call until the 2nd time they try. Then when they want to hang its up to you.
2007-03-09 12:52:10 · answer #4 · answered by M.J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a problem like this once. Honestly you should sit down with all of them and just ask them. Tell them that you are truly upset and if there is something wrong they should be honest with you. Maybe something happened and they didn't tell you. Sounds like you are young, and when girls are young they tend to get caddy. Someone just needs to speak up and express their feelings. I'm sure if you talk to them they will be receptive to it. Good luck!
2007-03-09 11:47:41 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've been in the same situation before, just tell them how you feel. once you tell them, im sure they'll see that they;ve been leaving you out. but if they still don't invite you after the talk, then obviously they are not good friends. find friends who want to hang out with you. good luck. =]
2007-03-09 11:47:44 · answer #6 · answered by BAM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go tell them exactly how you feel, if they tell you the truth accept it then leave them, if they dont seek you out afterwards then they're not the friends you would want so go find others, remember this phrase always: "tell me who your friends are and i'll tell you who u are" and a friend is always a reflection of you, good or bad, they should be your alter-ego, but you can only achieve this if you know how to be a friend yourself, got it?
2007-03-09 12:03:07 · answer #7 · answered by BlueAngel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like they are trying to leave you out,so maybe they really are avoiding you but trying to be nice about it.so you should try to make other friends.
2007-03-09 11:48:25 · answer #8 · answered by cynomynG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so tell them how u feel. if they dont accomadate, they arent really that great of friends and u cna do better. maybe they are just jealous, want something from you and are using you
2007-03-09 11:45:45 · answer #9 · answered by luv_hun_nay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
girl it seems like to me that they are just using you and you need to let them know how you really feel, stand up for yourself and dont let them walk all over you
2007-03-09 11:46:24 · answer #10 · answered by swascndy21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋