cheating on a great husband and I don't really feel guilty. the man i am cheating with is married with kids and he also started out not feeling guilty but now does. he goes back and forth with me - wants to be with me then cant.... all i can feel is bad that I am not being treated right by the other guy (who i thought was in love with me) - i just don't know what to do to snap myslef back into reality and feel good and treat my husband better and forget about the new guy...
2007-03-09 03:24:41 · 13 answers · asked by scrtlvss 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
dirty whor_!
2007-03-09 03:31:40 · answer #1 · answered by Kari R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop what you 're doing. It can only lead to disaster. You know that, but are trying to convince yourself otherwise. For the sake of the other man's family, end it now. Tell him if he really cares about you to never contact, or attempt to contact you, again. You are to never contact him either. This will be the most difficult thing you've done, but it is the right thing to do.
Now ... about you ... You felt lousy and this guy showed some concern, that's how it started. You have to guard yourself against this in the future, or you'll do this again. I recommend individual counseling. You are not mentally ill, but you seem to have a personality disorder of some type (possibly narcissistic, maybe borderline). Get with a good therapist and work through this. You also want to encourage your husband to go to couples therapy (use the same therapist - it will be optimal). You two need to guard your marriage, it's in big trouble, and he probably hasn't even noticed (part of the symptoms, I'm sure).
You're not bad, you're just bent a little - therapy will help. You have to grow a conscience, a danger sensor, and some deep love for your spouse and yourself.
Good luck you can do better!!
2007-03-09 12:00:21 · answer #2 · answered by Dino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just gotta make yourself do it!
SNAP OUT OF IT! He's not leaving his wife for you, and you are not leaving your husband for him.
Talk to your husband. Pray on the matter. Ask for guidance and forgiveness. Maybe counseling will help this situation out. But you have to severe all ways of contacting this other guy. Leave him alone completely. No emails, no phone call, not even little text messages to say hi every once in a while.
Think about the importance of your marriage vows and his as well to his wife. How would you feel if you were in her shoes? Think about the consequences of falling in love with some man that is not your husband.
I hope all goes well for you! â¥
2007-03-09 11:29:56 · answer #3 · answered by ♥LadyC♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is called Divorce. If you are cheating on your husband and you say that he is this great husband and father, than there is something missing from you. Not meaning anything more than unless you are happy you are not making your husband happy or the children.
It is easy to fool someone for a short time but harder for a long time.
2007-03-09 13:21:42 · answer #4 · answered by Marla D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need some counseling, then the only right thing to do is let your husband go as not only have you odne him wrong but you don't even have any regrets about it Because if was doing it to you, how would you feel?
2007-03-09 11:32:16 · answer #5 · answered by walker9842 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stay away from the other guy and start doing things for your husband that will make him feel loved and special.
2007-03-09 11:30:23 · answer #6 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sever all ties with the other guy. he won't leave his wife & kids for the "other woman". be faithful to your husband.
2007-03-09 11:28:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget the new guy. smile when with your husband about your adventure but end it now.
2007-03-09 12:09:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a pig. You'll wind up losing both of them. Good job.
2007-03-09 13:07:56 · answer #9 · answered by FatElvis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm....deja vu. I hate that when it happens. Brings up some heartbreaking memories.
2007-03-09 11:40:07 · answer #10 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do as you say.Snap yourself back to reality.
2007-03-09 11:32:41 · answer #11 · answered by Goodfellar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋