Why? How do you feel about it now and what would you do differently if you could?
I'm not implying that you don't love your child, just that for some reason (drug use, crime, prostitution, etc..) you have had to let them go and move on yourself.
2007-03-09 03:24:07 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Tough love and self-survival are my points here. You can love your child with all you have and you can be a great parent too, but if your child decides to partake in drugs and the like rather than be a part of a loving family, what can you do? Of course you cry and pray and beg, but not being able to "make" them "behave" can destroy your life if you let it. I have a 17-year-old daughter who is mentally ill and who has refused help for her drug problem, cutting, etc. I have walked through this nightmare with her for five years - five years of constant juvenile hearings, drug treatment centers, lockups, detention centers, schools, etc... I have stood with her before judges and cried until I was nearly hysterical from fear and worry. I have prayed continuously and done every single thing that I could think of to help her, to no avail. I love her more than I could ever say, but I'm terrified to get that phone call that she's OD'd or has been murdered.
2007-03-09 04:11:10 · update #1
Not me but a friend of mine did.
She gave up on her son with a heavy heart but she had to for her well being After years of his crap she got tired of bailing him out of jail or youth centers anyway.
Guess what after she gave up on him. He finally got a job and is doing fine today this was a year ago. It's called tuff love remember tuff love?
2007-03-09 03:50:28 · answer #1 · answered by California C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you're not a bad parent. I'm not a parent, but I see people getting into the sort of things you mentioned all the time. Usaully the kid is coping with something really hard in their life and finds drugs or drinking as the only way to deal. Crime is often from pressure, and often the people the kid hangs out with are already messed up. Prositution is one I can't really help you with, but the person probably doesn't feel loved or they are just desperate enough to do anything for money. So many times you can't understand why people do these things and find youself asking, "Why MY kid?". Even though you may want to give up on them, never do it. First of all, they are family and second of all, if you give up, there's no hope left for them.
2007-03-09 11:39:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. My 14 year old is all too pleased with being a C or worse student, and its killing me (not as bad as drugs, etc., but my biggest headache in life) but I won't give up on her. I have heard of people giving up on kids who are involved in very poor lifestyles and I think if it is done in love, disabling the enabling might be a good thing. You never stop praying, though.
2007-03-09 11:32:57 · answer #3 · answered by Sleek 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Parents need to be tougher on their kids. Also i think parents today do give up easier than before. We need to get the kids back. Bring back , family values have to be in place at early childhood for this to happen.
2007-03-09 11:38:29 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother did...never was there for me and now my 9 year old sister is living with someone else now...sad sad world when drugs can make you abandon your kids.
2007-03-09 11:31:38 · answer #5 · answered by LUCKYGIRL 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
quit asking this, you're a horrible parent.
2007-03-09 11:30:58 · answer #6 · answered by Halls of Colours 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
don know
at gun point , u mean
2007-03-09 11:26:42 · answer #7 · answered by willow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋