K im 16, 11th grade in highschool, and for most my life I've been happy just lying low, with a few good friends, but now im tired of that, I know some of people think im funny/cool, its just im really really shy and some would even go as far as saying im insecure. I wanna go out and party and live. I know i need to change, but I don't know what or how. How do you get people to invite you to hang out with them on the weekends and stuff? I feel really bad asking to come, then it just seems like im even more of a loser. any advice would be appreciated.
2007-03-09 03:20:53 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I DON'T SEE ANYTHING WRONG WITH STAYING HOME OUT OF TROUBLE. I WISH I WOULD HAVE DONE IT WHEN I WAS YOUR AGE.
2007-03-09 03:24:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to become more outgoing you will probably need to start with things you are comfortable with. Do you like athletics - join some teams, do you like animals - volunteer at the local animal shelter - do you like kids - become a lifeguard and work at the local pool or beach for the summer, do you like the elderly or helping the sick - volunteer at the local hospital or nursing home. The more you are exposed to lots of different people the more comfortable you will become in these situations. When you become comfortable with lots of different people, start getting friends together to do stuff with you. Ask some friends to volunteer at the animal shelter with you on Saturday and afterwards you can go out for pizza. When you feel up to it you can have a party at your house "just because", call some friends, ask them each to bring a friend, get some food and drinks, some music, some party games, and your parents as chaperones. If you have a pool that's a great excuse for a party. Come up with a plan for how you are going to expand yourself and stick to it. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-03-09 11:31:11 · answer #2 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was/am exactly like that. I didnt start experiencing the "scene" until I was out of college. (Great time) I had so much fun, you just surround yourself w/ friends and you all hang out. You will find the way that you are is so much better than the fast life. I promise. It is fu to occasionally have fun, but be responsible. Be a leader, invite people to come w/ you!
2007-03-09 11:35:43 · answer #3 · answered by Tamekia Anderson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont try to hard. be your self, others can tell when you are trying to act of be like someone else. And if they like that they are not true friends for they do not like you for who you really are.
Find out what your other friends are doing, where do they go. Your friends most likely have outside connections from your own group.
Where are the popular hangouts? When i grew up it was the town lake and some private farm fields out of town. Just show up with your friends. I hope this helps, good luck and have fun!
2007-03-09 11:26:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't care so much....really people will notice. If you over hear someone going some place like the mall...just show up casually like you just happened to be there...then its up to them to invite you to tag along.
WHy be shy...whats it gonna get you....nothing.
You have nothing to lose, go for it.....you will be amazed how much easier it is after high school...I promise.
2007-03-09 11:30:14 · answer #5 · answered by ste.phunny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you knows theres a party hint at it to the host, say like what r u guys doing (same nite at the party) like that
2007-03-09 11:33:53 · answer #6 · answered by iNeedHer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋