I have been in love with my best friend since I met her five years ago. She has always been upfront that she hasn't felt the same way. Well we moved in together 2 years ago and she had been single for most of that time until recently. During that time it felt like we were a couple to me; we were affectionate, had sex regularly and would go out and do things together. Now she has a boyfriend and all of those things have stopped. It hurts me a lot to see her with some one else (especially living together) and have the kind of relationship we had before just disappear. I'm not sure how to deal with this but I also feel terrible because she has always been upfront about how she feels. I would always say that I understood and that it wouldn't affect my head. She knows now how I feel and feels bad but doesn't know what to do. I'm just heart-broken perhaps you folks can give me some insight.
2007-03-09 03:09:04 · 15 answers · asked by ParadiseLost 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
hey dude. i know how you feel i was in the same situation and it hurted so bad. their is only one solution. listen closely you have to get a hold of yourself immediately. go look in the mirror and stare directly at yourself and began to think and reflect about everything. do you remember how happy she was with you... okay. the girl loves you but somewhere along the line something happen. I don't know what but it made her want something else.. you have to fight fire with fire if you want her. stop thinking like a man- you have to find someone and either make her jealous or become busy as if you don't care. don't hang around them. find a friend and she has too be hot looking if you want her to be jealous. Now you and I know you truly love her but this is how women operate- the operate off of jealousy... iT WORKS PLEASE BELIEVE ME. Women don't like weak men. began to smile when you see them. stop looking sad. stop being mean to her... I guarantee this guy will mess up and she'll coming running back... it s a guarantee.. you keep being a good friend and she'll began to confide in you again.. make sure you have that hotty around too. just to watch T.V. AND STUFF..
2007-03-09 03:45:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, its a wee bit bad on both of you're behalf -- yours because you moved in with her knowing how you felt and you knew she didn't feel the same way and hers for leading you on with all the affection and all the sex if she'd never planned on being with you as a significant other... but you did say you knew she wasn't in love with you so you had to know it was all going to end at some point.
Maybe you could just try to appreciate what you DID have with her -- I'm sure that knowing she was always up front about her feeling you never thought you'd even get that far right -- and at least she is still a friend and in your life, maybe not as you'd like... and the longer you feel bad or that she feels that she has to feel bad may make it so you's can't even be friends at all.
Maybe moving - if you haven't already is the first thing in helping yourself heal from it all.
Time really does heal all wounds.... Macs
2007-03-09 03:28:15 · answer #2 · answered by Just my opinion. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Number one is you do not need to be living together in that unhealthy situation.I think that you read the wrong signals from her because of the sexual relationship, especially since you said that she was always upfront with you. I think that she liked you well enough until someone else came along. Knowing how you feel, she needs to move out so that it does not cause you further pain. Maybe she can move in with the boyfriend that she cares about more. You need to move on order for the pain of that relationship to subside. I hope that it was not a user convenient relationship for her from the beginning.
2007-03-09 03:38:47 · answer #3 · answered by myleshunt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she knows how you feel and still nothing even though you have been friends with benefits then i would say that she really is not ment to be. She is a version of that special one, but she is not the one.
i dont think the two of you should live together anymore. It is and is going to be too hard for you. it also is not fair to you. yes it hurts but time will heal. you are putting all of efforts and love into someone that isnt returning it. Save your love and efforts for someone else. I would keep contact with her to a minimum for the first bit so you can clear your mind.
Every relation ship is just preparation for our true one, the one that will last forever and ever. I hope this helps. Good luck and Good health to you.
See is out there, dont waste your efforts. Go and look for her after you have healed. =)
2007-03-09 03:18:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give up on it. Do not wait around for her. She made it clear to you that she is disinterested. However.... somewhere down the line she might consider you after she realize how wonderful you are BUT at a time when you're already in love with someone else. It happens all the time.
2007-03-09 03:17:00 · answer #5 · answered by NicOOd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW!!!!! Ican't believe that yuo tosl her you love her she told you she did not feel the same yet you move in together and had sex (regulary) it sounds to me that the two of you ar e truly confused maybe she is some type of freak who wants the ewo of you to agree to share her then she will have sex with the both of you and you will live happily ever after.
THE END
2007-03-09 03:18:05 · answer #6 · answered by miss-ee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a splash communication along with her, and then tell her" whats up, I genuinely have something to tell you. it particularly is almost puzzling for me to assert, yet, i admire you." Then in basic terms see what she says. If she says something hateful to you, then circulate on. i know it may seem incorrect, yet there'll be numerous women persons on your existence. If she says something else, then in basic terms see what'll ensue.
2016-09-30 10:42:15 · answer #7 · answered by vyky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think love is a chemistry with unstable properties. Often one person feels more than the other. I think you should cherish the feelings and just love her. Remember that love is the sacrafice of your needs over someone else's.
2007-03-09 03:42:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sad to say but u have to just get over it and move on with ur life....... love is never begged . you will find someone that will love u back . good luck and God Bless u
2007-03-09 03:21:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
deal with it it happens all the time to others why should you be special
2007-03-09 03:13:38 · answer #10 · answered by Big girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋