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ive seen with my bf for a month and a half(im 20,hes 24)We live about a half hour away and he doesnt drive,only i do.im getting REALLY frustrated with the amount of time we spend together.last sat,i saw him but we were out at a bar,sunday we went ATVing with all his buddies.on tues i saw him,with his parents.i feel like we NEVER spend any time alone.I asked him to hang out last night but he said he was too tired i told him how i feel about this and he keeps saying i shouldnt feel that way and to just 'chill'.the fact that its like pulling teeth to see him and that were never alone make me feel like he doesnt care about me.he said that his friend sees his gf once a week and they have a perfect relationship,and when i asked him if he'd be ok with seeing me 1 a week he said yes.i think that is rediculous!especially for a new relationship.i know he hasnt had a gf in 2 years...so should i give him more time/space?how should i handle this,its really bothering me!should i act distant back?

2007-03-09 03:03:35 · 5 answers · asked by sallyh 1 in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

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i sould find a man that listens to ur issues,and tries to help solve them. a man who apprciates u for who u are. if he does not fit these expectations, u should drop him

2007-03-09 03:20:11 · answer #1 · answered by D.Money 2 · 0 0

My best advice to you would be that if he doesnt want to make the time and effort now then hes probably not goin too later, if you told him how you feel and he just kinda blew it off and didnt show concern and try to comfort you then you deserve someone else that will, ya know he coulda be like "im sorrry lets make a day that we can spend some time together" , if hes okay with only seeing you one day a week get out now cause thats just redicioulous, it might work for some people but you gotta think about what you want and deserve, if your not happy then do something about it, find someone who will make you happy, lifes too short to deal with the bs, ive been in many relationships where I was the one trying to make things work, and it might sound like im a bitty but ya know theres guys out there that want to spend time with you without you having to tell them. Well ive probably said too much but good luck with it, i hope it works out for you which ever way you go

2007-03-09 11:19:47 · answer #2 · answered by happygolucky 2 · 0 0

well i ve been with my bf for 5 months and the first 2 months were just like that for me. i would only see him once a week and it would be with his friends or family and i hated it cuz i wanted to see him more. im 18 and he is 24. well i decided to give him soem space and let him decide when we would see each other instead of me telling him. well after two months i can tell u that everything got better he started vising my house almost everyday and now we spend a lot of time alone. and now he is the one that tells me he wants to see me. so maybe give it a try to let go a litle and see if he gets the point and starts acting like he wants u. that the best advice i can give u. good luckk !!!!!

2007-03-09 11:19:20 · answer #3 · answered by Blondie 2 · 0 0

Oh Hun, he is spelling it out for you through his actions and comments.Comments like my buddies only see their girls once a week is him trying to tell you that ia what he wants also. I'm not saying he does not like you , in fact he may, he also likes his freedom. Besides , I think you would feel much better if you found a man that's on the same page as you.

2007-03-09 11:38:13 · answer #4 · answered by Shyanne L 1 · 0 0

Your bf is not nearly as committed to this relationship as you. He has made it plain enough that a good friendship is all he wants right now. You can choose to accept that he does not want an exclusive relationship, or you can keep pretending. My advice is to see other guys, there are plenty out there, might wake him up!

Good luck :)

2007-03-09 11:56:20 · answer #5 · answered by Koala 3 · 0 0

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