when i met him the girls i was with immediately felt comfortable talking to him because they said he was gay. i ended up going out with him , he took me to the gay bar he goes to alone on weedkends? he also has very feminine ways, prefers girl pants, low, girl shoes9tennis) says they are cuter, wheres lip gloss, has only girl friends , has mannerism of femle , flammboyant. he seems a bit unintereste and limp, if i may, in bed quite often, and to me is very unhappy, may need alternative life but is afraid? help
2007-03-09 02:52:31 · 5 answers · asked by GINA V 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Are you just joking with me. Your pulling my leg right.
Well if not then I have nothing to tell you. Only one question.
Why did you marry an obvious gay man?
2007-03-09 02:57:22 · answer #1 · answered by Some Random Guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the fact that he goes to a gay bar alone on the weekends pretty much says it all. He's probably gay but might not be comfortable admitting it to you or to himself. (Guys who are gay but afraid to admit it because of shame or fear sometimes marry women in an attempt to convince themselves and others that they're very straight.) If you haven't talked to him about it, do so. Ask him directly, straight up--but if you can, do so without sounding judgemental or harsh, since he'll be even less likely to be honest if he senses that you'll be angry at him for it. You can choose to stay in the marriage or leave, but your husband isn't going to change. Decide what you can and can't live with. If you haven't been married very long (it sounds like you haven't), I'd go ahead and leave. If he can't be open to himself about his sexual orientation, then he has a lot of growing up to do and isn't very emotionally healthy. You can't make him happy, he can't make you happy...decide for yourself--a tough situation, you have my sympathy.
2007-03-09 07:04:04 · answer #2 · answered by kacey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All of the stuff after "wears girls pants" was completely irrelevant. He is gay. Drop him and get a real man.
2007-03-09 02:58:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok he's gay or at least bisexual. How did you end up marrying him? You both need some professional help to get through this.
2007-03-09 03:40:32 · answer #4 · answered by babygyrl_nyc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey you, you choose it!. just accept it . don't you want him to be social with girls? you cant even appreciate being taken to the gay bar where he used to go alone? be happy and feel comfortable with him and take care of him or else you will lose him.
2007-03-09 03:12:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋