im 31 and have a high sexual drive my girl is 26 and hardly ever wants it then when i have to speak up and say something shell say no and for some reason it very humiliating to me and really puts me in a bad mood or depressess me we have 5 children and she hasnt had a problem being with other ppl as i have found out ive tried romantic cards enuendows gestures and basically make her day so all she has to do is sit and watch tv what the heck else can i do im scared its going to make me leave her but with the kids i find this overwhelmingly difficult not to mention i love her with all my heart any one have a clue or what
2007-03-09 02:40:53 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She is overwelmed with those 5 children she is taking care of. You both need to find a babysitter who you can trust to take care of the children and go out on a date. It has to be hard to get into the mood for sex when you are taking care of 5 children all day long. They are either fighting or one is into something they shouldn't be. Having 5 children is a hard job and exhausting as well. She could be afraid of having another baby as well. You need to sit down and have an open talk without fighting. One of you should use birth control as well so another baby will not be on the way.
2007-03-09 03:05:57 · answer #1 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to really take a long hard look at the relationship. You guys have five children and been married six years. That's one child a year that you've been married. Second, if you're finding out that she's hanging out with other men who give her cards etc...that's an issue by itself. If you've been seperated awhile, it's time to discuss either resolving issues between the two of you or move on. You honestly deserve better treatment, and you're kidding yourself if things will "change on their own". Who wants to be wonder and be miserable everyday?? She knows what she's getting away with right now, whether any type of lazyness or being other people etc.. it's time for you to put your foot down. If it comes down to divorce, you can file for decree; which legally both parties are to split things down the middle, and possibly a mediator would be brought in for the kids to help "determine" whom they should live with on a full time basis and shared parenting is discussed. Don't worry about losing your kids over this; she'd have to go out of her to prove to the court you are unfit parent. Good luck!!
2007-03-09 02:48:25 · answer #2 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 17:15:17 · answer #3 · answered by sebring 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you not married ?
6 yrs. / 5 kids..
Ever hear of birth control ?
Sounds to me like you are in a mess of your own making.
Nothing you can do..
You are stuck..
Go back to work...
2007-03-09 02:53:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋