When I think of all the good times I could have had in my late teens and twenties, it makes me sick to my stomach. I have had a girlfriend for 6 months and it's just fine now but when she tells me what fun she had in her twenties, I can't help but think about what I missed. I couldn't get a girlfriend then because I was too shy, too effeminate, too unattractive, too this or too that. If it hadn't been for online dating, I would still be a virgin. If only that had been invented a little sooner. I know that I'll never catch up on what I missed out on because of my age and maturity. Anyway, it sure would be nice to put what didn't happen for me behind me and to get it out of my mind. I'm having trouble doing that.
2007-03-09 02:38:57 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It is okay mate. People lose their virginity at all different ages. I am turning 19, still a virgin. My friends try to talk me into it all the time. I am waiting however though. The fact that you missed fun in 20's is FINE. you were probably studying. When your buds who were having fun are in 40's, they will be working their asses off. And you will be relaxing in Maui, at your private house, thinking "wow, I am glad I got this great job and stuff" Don't worry man. Youll be happy when they are stressed. :)
2007-03-09 02:46:00 · answer #1 · answered by semiphez1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that u are really great it is wonderful that u could do with out the life of most teens and things just think about it at least u know for sure u r clean and that one day no girl is going to call u up and say hey it all u u got me this way so Manny years ago now take care of it u can really say it was not me and know that there is now way that it is. if the girl u are with has a problem with that then u need to find some one else but if she don't then just tell her u know that she had allot of fun when she was younger but u worked really hard to get to where u are and u would like to move on and do so with her. just tell her how much more fun she can have now that u two are together and that u have not done allot and she can do it all again though u if she would still like to go out and party once in awhile it is OK
2007-03-09 10:56:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry or fret about it! The past is past and you can't change it. Why worry about what you may have missed out on. Some guys wish they had missed out on some of the good times they had because they have incurable sexually transmitted diseases now.
Just enjoy life, practice safe sex and plan for the future.
2007-03-09 10:47:53 · answer #3 · answered by don n 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is more about your self esteem then loosing your viriginity in your thirties. There is nothing wrong with it you have the rest of your life to enough what you think you might of missed out on. Maybe if you start looking for ways to work on the way you think about your self and try doing things that take you out of your comfort zone to help build you up. There is always someone who will find you attractive it is just the point of getting out there.
2007-03-09 10:46:26 · answer #4 · answered by xyz 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The only thing you missed was a lot of diseases and a lot of headaches. You should be proud that you saved yourself for so long. My husband was a virgin when we met in our 30's. There's no shame in it. Be happy that you are amongst the few who can actually say they were a virgin through their twenties. Thank you and good luck.
2007-03-09 10:45:08 · answer #5 · answered by cookie 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You'll just have to rationalize it somehow. Religion is a useful source for rationalizing.
One thing you will also have to come to terms with is that paternal age increases the chances for infertility and for some congenital disorders.
You will also have to come to terms with competing with her memories of other lovers.
I'm not sure how to do this though.
You may want to seek out a professional counselor.
2007-03-12 00:55:43 · answer #6 · answered by Deathbunny 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is no time limit on fun =) It doesn't have a shelf life! What you are feeling now is societies idea of how you should have spent your 20's. You are unique and you don't have to worry anymore you just proved you can have fun.
2007-03-09 10:50:43 · answer #7 · answered by Sorcha 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Time to grow up. Be thankful you didn't have sex earlier, could have avoided having aids or something else. Now you can be an adult about it. We all miss out on something. What do you really think you missed out on, a bunch of sex partners that mean nothing.
2007-03-09 10:45:38 · answer #8 · answered by blue2blnde 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just be thankful it finally happened and make up for lost time.
2007-03-09 10:53:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋