My nephew &his girlfriend had a baby in Dec. Childrens Aid has been involved since the birth of their daughter. Why and how they got involved I do not know.They are in their early 20s. His girlfriend has the mind of a 10 year old.She is a very sweet girl.She graduated from special ed.She cannot read or keep to a schedule.My nephew also has problems. He is bi polar and does not take any medication. He does not think he needs it.He has a very short fuse. They normally spend their time sleeping all day and playing video games all night. Recently,My nephew took on a desperately needed job and asked me to watch his girlfriend and baby while he works.According to him she cannot spend more than 1/2 an hour at a time alone with the baby. I have 4 children of my own , and a husband who is just taking a fit over this.I bring her and the baby to my house and supervise her. The mother doesn't seem to be bonding with the baby. I am vey worried about the welfare of this beautiful baby girl.
2007-03-09 02:28:15 · 8 answers · asked by D.T 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
This is a really sad situation, I think you should do everything in your power to support and love this child. I know it will be difficult, but this is a baby's life. She needs some stability. If you don't help the baby could be in danger, or be taken away from your family forever.
2007-03-09 02:32:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask yourself if you can handle the added responsibility and financial burden of raising another child because that is what it is going to wind up being. I know that no family wants to see one of their children, nieces, nephews, grandkids, what have you put into the foster care system... but maybe this child would have a better chance either being put of for adoption or letting childrens services take her. I just had my son in December and I would think that since the child is still young, the chances for adoption would be high. There are plenty families out there .. husbands and wives that can not be graced with children for one reason or another and deserve the chance to love and care for a child that isn't going to get that from their home. I would seriously speak with your nephew and try to explain the situation to him and tell him how you feel. And if he is indeed bipolar then he needs to be on some type of medication because if he reaches his manic state when you aren't around.... what is going to happen to the mother and that child? If the mother isn't bonding nor does she have the capacity of taking care of the child.... how is he going to do it if he is completely out of control himself? This is a sad situation for your family but it may be the start of something wonderful for someone else's. That child is the one that is going to suffer if left to live in that situation. Do what is right for that baby.
2007-03-09 11:28:19 · answer #2 · answered by Gyrlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would contact Children's Aid and see if there are some parenting classes or some way that they can help the two keep the baby . If they are unable to be responsible , loving parents then it maybe best for them to give the baby up . Its nice that you are trying to help ,but this sounds like it could be way out of your control .You have to put your children and husband first in my oppinion . If they have to give the baby up , it would be better for everyone including the baby to do it now rather than when hes older .
2007-03-09 10:43:42 · answer #3 · answered by darsow@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your nephew? So where are your nephew's parents? What about the parents of the irresponsible mother?
I'm sure you know how children's aid became involved. The family surely has hereditary and experiential problems.
The mother can't raise the baby and will probably neglect/abuse it, even if inadvertently. You can raise 5 children, or you can let the taxpayers raise this one. Either way, it's a mess.
2007-03-09 11:15:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are that concerned, try talking to Children's Aid first. If they are already involved, then they need to know how other family members feel. If it is too much of a stress on you and your family to take on the care of this baby and the mother, then don't do it. Your first, and most important priority is your children and household. There are agencies that can help your nephew and his wife and daughter. Let them handle it. Of course, I would suggest keeping up-to-date with them, etc., but take care of your children first. It's not fair to them if you don't.
2007-03-09 10:38:20 · answer #5 · answered by puppyraiser8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this, but maybe the baby would be better off with someone else. I do foster care myself so I know a little about the situation. Obviously this child is not being taken care of properly especially if she can't be alone with the baby for that long. Does cps know about this, because if you ask me maybe they should be notified and the welfare of this innocent child should come first.
2007-03-09 10:57:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is unlikely this mother will ever bond with the baby.
Can your Children's Aid provide a day care for mother and child? It is likely the hospital contacted them when the baby was born. Also, check for help from ARC (Assoc of Retarded Citizens).
Can you convince them to put the baby up for adoption?
2007-03-09 10:35:02 · answer #7 · answered by chattygirlchild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your nephew isn't a drug addict, so you're not "enabling" anything. If she can't care for her child and he has mental disorders, they probably shouldn't have the baby. I can't believe that childrens aid hasn't removed the baby from the home, it would probably be the best thing for her.
2007-03-09 10:32:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋