especially if you were totally clueless about it and he admitted it to you right after it ended (he slept with same girl 4 times nov-jan left midway through last time and confessed)
plus the ***** is fat old ugly with 5 kids(maybe 15 years older than me and gave him head which i never did and he always begged for) plus i hadnt had sex with him over a month and before that only like once a week or every 2 weeks.
his apoligy seemed sincere and he completely changed his behavior? plus you got 2 small babies together and 6 years together.
2007-03-09 02:19:38 · 8 answers · asked by maylene1852 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
about the head for those who asked. i am giving it to him every time we do sex now, and we are doing it about 5-6 times a week now. plus i got a makeover, and started dieting so if he ever does cheat again i will know 100% it wasnt my fault and i can kick him to the curb. right now i felt the cheating was my fault for having let myself go, never giving him head, and hardly ever havnig sex, we did it like 1ce every other week, and the time he cheated we hadnt done it in like a month. plus i gave him way too much freedom letting him go anywhere anytime, never calling to check up, trusted him completely. thats over with now. now im checking up on him on a regular basis, and if i get suspicious i will be checking phone logs, wallet, the works but it sucks that i have to do that in the first place. and that i can no longer trust him.
2007-03-09 06:46:03 · update #1
Well cheating is always a difficult thing to contemplate. Why do some do it and others avoid at the risk of death. Statistics tell us that about 50% of all men have cheated and about 63% of all women, at some point during their life. I think that indicates human nature, not sin or weakness, so do what you want, but i don't ultimately think its the end of the world should either party have a little sex on the side.
Yes was cheating, now ask yourself is it worth the end of your marriage? Forgive him...
2007-03-10 10:32:48 · answer #1 · answered by Boston Bluefish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your response about head was the reason I asked the oral survey questions.
I don't know if you want to forgive this.
On my end, my wife's interest in sex with me comes and goes. Lately it's good, but there have been times where we went MONTHS without sex. It was horrible.
I am in the NEVER gets a ******** club. I hate it. There is nothing I can do to change her on this, she just won't do it.
I shouldn't say never. I think I have got maybe 6 in 10 years. And most of those were in the first 2 years. I think I got one in 2004......
I do oral for her very often, and virtually every time she asks for it. She loves it. I love it BECAUSE she loves it.
I wish she felt the same for doing it for me......
In spite of my frustrations, however, I have never cheated.
2007-03-09 10:53:32 · answer #2 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He cheated because you wouldn't give him head?? You still don't do it?? If not and he's that into it he will cheat again and pull the same old'I'm so sorryplease don't be mad or leave me" BS he's doing now! He MARRIED you knowing you weren't into oral and then CHEATED on you to get it! So selfish! Leave his sorry azz, he'll do it again - once a cheater ALWAYS a cheater!! You can't trust him and where there is no trust there is no love......period. Take your kids and find a man you can trust who loves you enough not to run out and find old women to give him oral gratification!
***or stay and not trust him but buy him a blow-up doll with the mouth opening!! lol - kidding......leave him!
2007-03-09 11:03:13 · answer #3 · answered by Incognito 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men admit to cheating to relieve their own conscience. I think confessing is a bs thing to do, because it shifts the burden to you. Now you get to think about what he has done and he feels better because he got it off his chest.
I hope his behavior has changed, but chances are, if you both have different sexual needs, this reconciliation will be short lived.
I don't blame anyone for giving their marriage a SECOND chance, but giving him more than that is just setting yourself up to be betrayed again.
2007-03-09 13:30:25 · answer #4 · answered by kimpetuous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he was lonely, but that doesn't give him the right to cheat.You both need to ask yourselves if you still love one another.Do you think you can trust him again?
If your sex life is not what you want it to be then you will not be happy. Does he know why you don't do oral? Maybe ya'll can work on it or maybe he will understand why you don't do oral.
It is up to you whether you forgive him or not.Hope everything works out for you.
2007-03-09 13:13:06 · answer #5 · answered by Cindy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really seems to feel sorry and guilty about what he did. Sure. Forgive him. But if it EVER happens again, leave his sorry a$$.
2007-03-09 11:36:37 · answer #6 · answered by Kari R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to talk it out n work it out
hope it goes good
2007-03-09 11:07:28 · answer #7 · answered by Gisselle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no you deserve better than that
2007-03-09 13:47:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋