How can I help my husband?

Question

We have had some bad luck in life lately. Bad things keep happpening to us. My husband is the strong one and has helped me so much. I want to do something nice for him. I want him to know how much I appreciate him (and yes I have told him). Also, financially we cannot afford anything huge right now. He is not a typical man and I am looking for unique ways to cheer him (and myself) up and show him how much I love him. It is also our 2 year anniversary in one month. Any ideas?

Answer 1

It sounds to me like he has every thing a guy could want. The fact that you are so concerned with showing him you appreciate him is the thought that is the deed. I think if you sit him down, look directly in his eyes and tell him exactly how you feel, he will take it with him forever.May God bless you both.

Answer 2

It all depends on what he likes and also what you like.

In general, we guys like to have good sex, and you should know that, and probably he would like that no matter what else you do.

But just sex would be plain and not enough at all. Sex can relieve stress and is good to clear your mind from problems. But the best thing to do, again, depending on what you two like, is to try to have a romantic time together, alone, and end it with a good long sex, that should be consider a mix of plain sex and making good love.

To do something romantic, if you don’t want to spend money, you can have a dinner for two at home. Some candles, and a nice meal (whatever you two like) and later on a very good sweet dessert can always help anybody to overcome problems and feel better.

Something my Wife and I enjoy to do is to have some quiet time, maybe a romantic dinner, and then we have fun while having dessert, we feed each other, and make a little “mess”, but we are good at cleaning too.. LOL

Other things you can do is to jump in the car on the weekend, and start driving somewhere you never been, maybe the beach, the mountains, or a lake, or maybe something as simple as going to the next town and visit a mall, or a small restaurant that can be a perfect place for a romantic dinner, or if you can spend some money, go to a hotel, and relax there, like a small vacation.

The main idea is to forget about the world. Don’t think about bills, problems, work, nothing. What matters is only you two and how much you love each other, how much you desire each other, and how happy you are together.

Just to get you an idea, my Wife and I try to go on those weekends trips every time we can, usually every two months or so, and we either go to a little hotel at the beach, or we go to Disney (we live in Florida) and just “escape” from the real world for those two days (sometimes three if we can ask for an extra day at work).

Be creative, and don’t just plan it yourself. Get him involved, the surprise is gonna be there anyways, just get him, and tell him you two are going out for a little adventure and relaxation, and plan it together.

Have fun!

Answer 3

i do am sorry for what's you going through, but always remember there's always light at the end of a tunnel. Right now the two of you are on this trial to see how you both can solve no matter how small the problem you all can have, just hang tough and a bit more stronger for your husband.
The two of you can celebrate your 2nd year anniversary without spending lots of money, and remember money is only material things. Why don't you plan to have dinner at home,fix one of the room in your house, set a table for two, put one long stem rose on top of the table, buy a few candles and lit it around the room, then have a soft romantic music, cook his favorite meal, then if you have a sexy dress,wear it with high heels. From there you can explore the night with him.
hope this helps, and let me say that soon you all problem will go away, as long as the two of you love each others. Congratulation and be happy.......................

Answer 4

I know how you feel. My husband and I in the past have always struggled financially, and I know first hand how that stresses a marriage. I know for a fact, that you have to keep in mind that money is just materialistic. No amount of money can buy true happiness. Do things with him that he enjoys, cook him a nice meal, sex always seems to work also, like others have said, but above all, the little things makes the real differences. Sit down and come up with a plan, and really stick to it, to make your lives better. Start making a monthly budget, actually see the numbers on paper, I started doing this last year, and we are finally seeing the light, you have to work together to solve problems. But also know that everything will work out. The sun always comes out after the storm. Be strong and hang in there!

Answer 5

Start by writing him a love letter, pouring your heart out to him. Tell him how much you appreciate him and that you will always be in his corner. Fix his favorite dish. If you can't cook, get takeout and set the table nicely with your good plates. (They don't have to be expensive). Get flowers, some good music and make yourself attractive. Set the bath for him. Pour in some scented oils and spread flower petals in the tub. If alcohol is a problem, make a virgin drink, and share with him. After all of this, the main thing is for him to be reassured that you love and respect him. All the fancy, expensive gifts in the world would not mean much if the two of you are unhappy. If you prefer to go away, there are all sorts of week-end excursions that you could take together without spending a fortune. In some of the major cities there are hotels that cater to people who want a week-end stay to go to the theaters, restaurants, sightseeing. Do you believe in prayers? If you do, then go to worship together. Sometimes when two loving people suffer together and still stay loyal, their marriage may grow stronger in the end. I'm rooting for you.

Answer 6

The best way to cheer your husband up is to "LOVE" him to death. Be kind, considerate to his feelings and wants, respectful is important. I'm sure there are things he loves to do outside of work, arrange to go and do this. It doesn't take a whole lot of money to make someone happy. Setting up a date for you and him can be fun. Spend that quality time with him! Remember LOVE isn't about the money you have to spend on each other.Go out for supper and a show or if he's sports minded take him to see a game being played. Hope this gives you some insight on the subject. Cocoa

Answer 7

OH yea and it doesn't cost almost nothing to do. Well on your anniversity, whenhe gets home have dinner ready and if you ahve kids take them to your MOM's for the night. Give him soem wine and tell him to relax for a while and give him a shoulder massage. After tell him supper is ready, eat and stare and lick your lips alot and watchhis face. then ask him if he's ready for dessert and if he says yes tell him you are his dessert and have sex right there on the table then take it to the bed and don't worry about the dishes till tomorrow. And I bet he will even tell you when you'll can do it again.

Answer 8

Find out how far you can drive on one tank of gas. say it's 300 mi.
See where you can stay and what you can do in a 150 mi. radius of your home.
We do it for the long weekends, drive Friday finding someplace new stay Saturday, and drive home Sunday
Just use your imagination, I'm sure he'll love anything you do for him.

Hope this helps

Answer 9

Plan a livingroom floor picnic for just the two of you. Lay out a blanket and light some candles, have finger foods that you can feed to each other. It's romantic and cheap.

Answer 10

Sometimes with guys, simple things go a long way. If you baked him a cake and wrote Thank You on it and said you made it for him to show him how grateful you are for all the things he's done, that would go a long way.