or even really talk anymore. He never smiles or has a nice word to say to me. He acts like he hates me anymore. I've never cheated on him or done anything to make him hate me. I just don't think he likes who I am. It doesn't matter what I do, it's not right. We have two kids 2gether. (ages7&8) They have picked up on it. I don't know whether to end the marriage. I don't want to live the rest of my life w/someone feeling this much resentment towards me but I also am afraid of losing him. When I think about it I get sick. I can't imagine being without him but also wonder if I would be better off without all of the negativity in my life. There are times that I just feel like crying after he says something. He don't even realize what an *** he is I don't think. I don't think he's cheating. He don't have time. It all really started when the kids were born. I'm confused. By the way I would never want anyone else, I just want him to love me the way he use to. Any suggestions?
2007-03-09 01:58:57 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe it's time to do a little psychology testing. No, don't go see a therapist, just try some things that are the basis for theory. Like Pavlov's dog. If your husband does something positive, give him something positive. If he does something negative, ignore him. As the positives get more intense so does the rewards. As the negatives get more intense just ignore him. No punishment or his little brain will overload! Soon he will be begging to do positive things to see what he gets next. I hate to imply that we guys think like dogs but, hey! Nookie has changed more men's characters than any other external stimulus!
2007-03-09 15:29:26 · answer #1 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like your husband got into something that he really did not want. Does this man love you? Try being your own person. Don't look to him for anything. Pick yourself up,. Don't let this guy make you feel bad about who you are. Get out do something for yourself. Go to the gym, make new friends. Let what he says to you bounce off. If he knows he pushing your buttons he'll just keep doing it. If he's miserable leave him alone focus on your children and yourself. Maybe that will bring him around. If not maybe you should be absolutely sure he is not cheating. Suggest therapy. Try something but don't let this jerk drag you down.
2007-03-09 11:38:31 · answer #2 · answered by jjeano661 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to counseling, if you cant get him to go with you go by yourself.
you know if he does not change you are going to have to leave, it is not fair to your kids to have then in that environment unless you went them to think this is normal, and find themselves in relationships like this when they are grown
2007-03-09 11:32:38 · answer #3 · answered by tigweldkat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋