don't even know where to begin with this subject.
I've been with my man for 3 years. As of last year we were engaged. Now at the time I said yes I took the ring and we were realy happy. 1 year goes by and still no wedding plans. He blames my parents b/c they don't want to help. Know how can my parents help when he dosen't have a steady job??? What does he think that my parents are going to just buy everything for us and were gonna live for me? I've always had steady jobs, I went 2 school I did my thing. He hasn't. He never had a steady job. He got his CNA witch got him a stressful low paying job in a nursing home. He quit that job and went back to his construction job. His boss is my dad's best friend. Now if it wasn't for my dad's friend my man would be home sitting on his *** watching cartoons. OH he lovees to watch tv. He keeps saying hes gonna go back to school hes gonan do this and hes gonna do that. I see no change. My friend who's been 2gether w/ her man for as long as we have dropped the good news that their getting married later this yr. Nothing drastic. There just getting a license and gonig on a honey moon. Thats exactly what David and I wanted. I don't want a fancy smancy wedding. What for? To show off? Id rather blow it off on a beautiful house and fancy vacations. Life is 2 short. I wanna enjoy my self, see new things, learn new things. I don't throw all that money away for one day. Its not worth it 2 me.
No Dave and I got into a lil fight. Tell me if im wrong. Today he had work. What do you think he was doing last night? Certainly wasn't anything useful. He was at a bar with his friends partying till 3am. Now Im not agianst him going out with his friends. He can do what ever he wants. What upset me the most is his irresponsibility. He could of went out and left around 12am. But no. He was a follower and he stayed out till 3am. Lazy *** can't even get an alarm clock. I have 2 wake him up in the morning. IF it wasn't for me 2day he wouldn't have made it into work. I called him irresponsible. HE said u knwo what don't talke me. Does that sound like a man to you? You know what dave. Let ur momma take care of you. Its her ****** fault your the way you are. I notice the change in him. He hasn't come by my house you know what his excuse is? b/c my parents throw him out at 10pm. Well not litery but my mom starts yelling at me 2 throw him out. He understands so he leaves angrily. Common sense. I Have work, you have work, my parents have 2 wake up in the morning, my brother has 2 wake up in the morning...leave at an appropiat t ime go dammit. T heres no need for me 2 tell him that. But no...were wrong he's right. Oh and did I forget 2 mention another reason why he dosn'et come..b/c I don't cook for him. What am I his ****** wife? I live w/my parents. Its diff. If we lived on our own and it was a week end then find I'll cook. I'll make something.
Bottom line: He should of never given me the ring. I shouldn't have even ask him. Its my fault. I pressured him. Maybe he felt that if we didn't get engaged I would leave him. Well either way im gonna leave him b/c we can't stay like this. We just cant. I want to be alone and enjoy my self with my friends and family. Screw marriage. I just want to enjoy my life b/c life is 2 short. I don't need a man. I work, I make money. I pay for my lil room at home. Say what ever you want about my parents. My dad is not working, my mom was always a stay at home mom. My brother and I have 2 chip in. Its the right thing to do.
2007-03-09 01:49:21 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This doesn't sound like its a match made in heaven. I think you should move on from this situation as it clearly frustrates you. Where is the benefit to having this person around? You could have been a bit more succinct here sweety.
2007-03-09 02:00:21 · answer #1 · answered by Devdude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. It's time to give the ring back and for you to move on with your life. If he's this irresponsible now, it's not going to get better after you get married, it will probably worsen. I was engaged in 05 and was only of three months of dating and then I realized that I would be an "employee" to him, I gave the ring back. You don't need to "raise" someone; it should be an equal partnership, and right now he's an infant.
2007-03-09 02:21:59 · answer #2 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you feel better now after getting all that out. Sounds like you have allready made your decision. I have to say it sounds like the right one. He is a loser and user.
2007-03-09 01:58:44 · answer #3 · answered by mnwomen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think u know what he is, and if u marry him u will be sorry about it later on. u won't be able to enjoy your life if u marry a man like this.
2007-03-09 02:07:15 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore about telling your ex! those adult males are criminals! call the police officials NOW! you're a criminal offense sufferer! the in reality issue it truly is yuck is them no longer YOU! None of that is your fault! call the POLICE!
2016-12-05 11:12:10 · answer #5 · answered by brenneman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im not really sure what your question is but, good for you to want out of that situation.
2007-03-09 01:59:25 · answer #6 · answered by Awesome Rockin Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
re read your question...the answer to your problem is in there
2007-03-09 02:03:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋