It's been 2 years now since he walked out on us when ever he decide to come around should i let him come near my kids we have 2 together and 2older girls that's not his my oldest she just started to develope and everything when he was living with us she was just still a child but now she has a little curve to her form to her body he's not on drugs may be he was on drug's the day he left i don't know so why would he just up and leave like that
2007-03-09 01:44:26 · 6 answers · asked by kaciefltn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
But my older children did have a strong bond with him we met when my oldest was 21/2 years old and my second was only 4mths old they see him *** dad and now they are 10 and 8years old he is the only father they know.
2007-03-09 02:04:14 · update #1
I would make him take me to court if he wants to see them.
2007-03-09 01:46:40 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First I would like to say that should have not walked out on you and your 2 girls. He really should have been there for you and them as they have now grown up to be mature women. I am not sure of the situation but, I must say that you should let him see them and to spend time with him. But before you do that you should have a talk to your two daugther's and let them know that he do or saying anything I mean anything to them that is not appropriate. Then to tell you. You need to lay some ground rules. If you have too, make sure that they have a cell phone on them just in case. If you have too honestly you should just go with them when they decide to go out. But is the man was on drugs before he left yall, then you need to take it to court. Unless he can prove that he is clean and is making the improvements in his life. (Job, Place, etc.) But I really hope that it works out.
2007-03-09 09:59:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it may be time to get some professional advice about your children's safety, feelings, and for you to get legal advice as well. relationships with parents are important for children. children need to have a safe enviroment with their parent. losing a parent, because they walked off, is traumatizing to children, parents in and out of their children's lives, is damaging. you have tons of things to consider right now, get the professional advice in what to do.
2007-03-09 09:49:57 · answer #3 · answered by No More Abuse 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know the answer so listen to your gut feeling and then follow through.
2007-03-09 09:50:15 · answer #4 · answered by Gypsy Gal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has right to see his kids he doesn't need to see the others.
2007-03-09 09:50:59 · answer #5 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the children that are his---yes, let him visit them...the children that are not his---are not his concern
2007-03-09 09:47:29 · answer #6 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋