At what point should you start telling people (aside from the father) that you are pregnant?

Question

I am 5 weeks pregnant with my first and I am dying to tell everyone but don't know if it's a good idea yet (in case of miscarriage). If you've had kids, at what point did you tell people you were pregnant?

Answer 1

I'm 7 weeks and my husband told EVERYONE two weeks ago, I wasn't best pleased!!!! They say you should wait until 12 weeks to announce but I think it's up to the individual. Some people are so bursting with happiness that they just have to tell!!

If you can wait, then I would, just enjoy the pregnancy with just the two of you for a couple of months!!!

Congratulations and good luck!!!

Answer 2

I had a miscarriage at 8 weeks my first pregnancy. It was questionable from the beginning, so I only told a few close family members and friends. The second pregnancy, I was really nervous about having another miscarriage even though everything was fine from the beginning. I waited until the end of my first trimester to share the news with everyone. Only my close family and friends knew before that because they knew I was ttc. I am 13.5 weeks pregnant again. This time I waited until after having an ultrasound at 7 weeks when I was able to see the baby and the heartbeat. I felt a little cheated with my second pregnancy because I was so nervous to share my wonderful news. However, I just wasn't prepared to have to explain to everyone if I had another miscarriage. Congratulations and best wishes!

Answer 3

I wouldnt start telling anyone until after your 12-13th week. Not to scare you, but that is when you enter your senond trimester and the risk for miscarriage is much lower. If you did tell everyone and then you ended up having a miscarriage, it would be hard when people ask you how the baby is and how you are feeling, etc. Its better to be safe than sorry, so I would wait. I did and believe me, I know how hard it is to keep it a secret! I thought I would never make it another day without opening my mouth, but its all worth it. The time will fly by, it always does. Also, I would advise you not to buy anything yet, just in case and then you have all this baby stuff to look at and know your not gonna use it. Hope this helps.. Good Luck and Congratulations!

Answer 4

I had my 12 week scan this week and am only now telling people. I told best friend a little earlier. Doing the rounds of the parents this weekend to break the news.

I wanted to wait until after the scan in case it showed up any problems - luckily everything seems fine.

It has been the longest two months of my life keeping it a secret!

Answer 5

Depends on who "the people" were.

Sometimes people like to wait until the end of the first trimester when the pregnancy is more established.

Sometimes they might tell their immediate family and closest friends as soon as they find out, and then tell other people later.

Sometimes women tell people they know well earlier, and then maybe tell people like employers later on, when the pregnancy become noticeable.

Either way, it's absolutely up to you and your situation. Depending on what you do for a living, you may need to tell your employer immediately (if you are exposed to dangerous chemicals, or are involved in physical labor for example).

With my first 4 pregnancies I told anyone who would listen as soon as I knew.

With my last 2, because I was a mature aged mother by then, I waited until I was sure the pregnancy was established and Ithings were looking good - when I was about 13 weeks.

Answer 6

We told people after our first ultrasound which was at 8 weeks. We were able to tell that the baby was growing as it should and I didn't have a family history of miscarriage that tempted me to wait longer. We were dying to tell everyone and to wait a month after we found out was hard but I think a smart move. Congrats!!!

Answer 7

I told everyone as soon as I found out (I was 7 weeks along). Superstitious people don't typically tell until the second trimester for fear of "jinxing" the pregnancy. However, I am not at all superstitious (although I do love the song!) There is no scientific evidence that telling before 12 weeks will make you miscarry...either you will or you won't. And personally, if I did miscarry I'd rather have the support of family and friends to help me through the time than to go through it alone (with my husband of course).

Basically...it's up to you! Do what you feel the most comfortable with and don't listen to what you "should" or "shouldn't" do regarding telling people.

Answer 8

I have always told close family straight away, but then again I cannot keep a secret, mine or anyone elses!!

They say 3 months is the sensible time as that is when the risk of miscarriage decreases but if you want to tell people now, do so. The only downside is you have longer to put up with people giving you alsorts of advice and opinions.

Answer 9

It just depends on your preference. I told my close friends and family as soon as I found out for sure from my doctor at 6 weeks. I waited to tell my boss and then my coworkers until I was 12 weeks and more confident that I wouldn't have a miscarriage. Just be sure that your boss is the first to know at work! =-)

Answer 10

When you feel comfortable with it. I found out with my last at 5 weeks, and I told everybody I saw. The only thing you have to worry about is if something happens and then people comeing up to you and asking how its goin. That has happened to a friend of mine. She had a miscarriage at 8 weeks, and alot of people knew about the pregnancy. Well, not everybody knew she lost the baby, and they kept asking her how she was doing, and she had to tell them what happened. Good Luck ;)