Wanting to get married young?

Question

I've always had a dream to get married young and have an actuall family young. I am 18 years old and this is what I would like to do. Some people think I'm crazy but if you think about it look at todays elderly how are madly in love and would do anything for their spouse those people normally got married young. I want a relationship like that with someone. I'm just having a hard to time trying to find someone who wants the same thing. Anyone out there?

Everyone in my family has married young and had kids young..it's what I want and what I like. I'm not willing to marry anyone. I just want to find people who want the same thing and maybe we can talk.

Answer 1

If it feels good, do it! I got married 2 months after I turned 20. I am extremely happy. We have been married for over 3 1/2 years. =) Dont listen to all the negative old farts that tell you to wait, you are too young, you are ruining your life, etc. They are jealous.

Answer 2

There’s a big difference between life today and life fifty years ago. Fifty years ago, people’s attitudes were different—they didn’t think “it’s always about ME and my happiness, so if I’m not totally happy right this second, I’m going to run and get a divorce” And, frankly, MANY people stayed married, not necessarily because they were happy, but because they didn’t have much of a choice. Now, in those cases, in the end did love ‘grow’? Sometimes. But TODAY most people aren’t going to wait out years of unhappiness in the hopes that love might eventually grow (I wouldn’t do it, and I consider myself to be a fairly intelligent and mature person).

But with that said, if your dream is to marry young and have a family, then go for it (of course you have to find a husband first, and make sure you choose well). BUT, in this day and age, I don’t ever recommend that a woman put herself in a position where she’s totally dependant on a man. It's just not a smart thing to do. Get an education. There’s plenty of time to start a family AFTER (your mid-20's--after finishing college--is still young!).

The key is finding the right person, and that might happen when you're 20, or it might not happen until you're 30.

Answer 3

So you're just willing to find ANYONE who wants to get married and bring a bunch of kids into the world for your own fantasy? Marriage is not like that and you are DEFINITELY TOO YOUNG! You, honey, are living in a dream world. You're seeing elderly people loving each other but you don't know what they went through to get to that point. It's hard work. It's tears of joy and heartbreak. Go do something wonderful with your life. If you want kids, go volunteer at a hospital and read to the sick ones and think how lucky you are that you can share this time with them. Think about how their poor parents feel. Go to college! If you get married now to fulfill some fantasy life, you'll be so resentful and regretful later on. Make something of yourself and THEN go from there. Grow up, honey. Godloveya.

Answer 4

My parents and everyone I knew said don't get married young, there is too much to do in life. I had the love of my life when I was 18 and because everyone said not to get married, I didn't and married someone I was incompatable with later which brought a lot of sadness. We divorced, then remarried and are happy now but marrying "the wrong" one can be a lot of frustration. Just marry when you know you have found the "right" person who you will be happy with the rest of your life and do not afraid of being older when you find them. Better try and do it right the first time or you may be bitter later.

Answer 5

You said you see elderly people act this way, but how many young people do you see act that way? getting married wont make a relationship any better or worse than it was before you get married, seems in America at least marriage is only useful for tax purposes. What i mean is as far as love goes it is either there or not marriage should not be the barometer for how much two people love each other. good luck with what ever you decide though.

Answer 6

I just have some advice basically. I was 21 when I met my husband and I wouldn't suggest getting married early. We have been married almost two years now and all we do is fight. We are inches away from getting a divorce. I would highly suggest waiting until like 25 maybe to get married. You want to be absolutely sure before you make that big jump. Just a suggestion.

Answer 7

Relationships like that don't just happen.
I can undersand looking at older couples and wanting that bond. But they got married young because they were truly in love. Besides, the times were different back then.

You really shouldn't set your mind on getting married young. That can lead you to settling on the first guy that'll marry you. Not the best idea.

Answer 8

only one couple out of 50 couple married can expect not to divorce. It is 25 time higher divorce rate for teenage marriage then for average marriage so as you see odds are against young marriages.

Answer 9

Quit worring about getting married. it is not all you think it is. Go to college and get your education first. If not you will always have $ problems and that will end up reuning your marriage. Almost half the marriages end due to $ problems.

Answer 10

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