to fit in?
2007-03-09 01:25:56 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Sociology
There is safety in numbers so if a person is accepted into a group, they feel protected.
2007-03-09 01:33:50 · answer #1 · answered by AileneWright 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because there's always a push towards homogenization. People don't want to be different because differences set us apart. Then you're an outsider looking in. It's interesting if you look at cultures that've been around a long time they'll have some of the same fashions and dialects even though they're individuals, it's just the drive towards togetherness. We dislike the gap between us and others.
The interesting thing is though that those that don't try to fit in, and push the envelope are the ones that move that society into growth. Because if we all just regurgitate the same ideas, we do not learn and grow.
So I don't think it's a bad thing to fit in, but one should still strive to grow.
2007-03-09 10:03:39 · answer #2 · answered by Luis 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The human psyche has a few major rules in which it lives by.
"Fitting In" as you put it is a human need to be accepted by ones peers. This is why family ties are so important in a young persons "growing mentally". Even in the animal kingdom there is the "pecking" order. All living things have to fit in somewhere to survive.
2007-03-09 09:35:03 · answer #3 · answered by we_are_legion99 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People only try hard to not be the person that that they are. We are a society of insecure, victims. We believe that everyone else is happier than we are and that we are not good enough. We "stop trying" only when we realize that the only person that a matters...is "me". There is no one on this earth that can hurt me the way I can hurt myself, and conversely there is no one that can love me the way I can love myself. I know that we try very hard to avoid suffering, only to continue to suffer. So, why do we suffer... so we can feel joy. So why do we feel joy... to know when we are suffering... the idea, I suppose it to go beyond even this, to no suffering and no joy. to be without ego. Now If I had no ego, I know I would not try so hard.....
2007-03-09 12:04:57 · answer #4 · answered by Che K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because of the low self-esteem they have of themselves. Never try to fit in, either it fits or it doesn't, if it doesn't fit, you get another size and all things don't fit all people.
2007-03-10 04:48:47 · answer #5 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People try so hard because they want to be in a group be liked by others even if it mean doing what they don't want to do. People may also try hard to be loved by others it may be that something bad happened in there past and they may be lonely or something like that.
2007-03-09 20:43:25 · answer #6 · answered by Tummy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because it takes less effort to be a Lemming than to develop into an autonomous, freethinking human being.
And it's not about age, some people are STILL Lemmings at 80!
Good luck.
2007-03-09 21:00:11 · answer #7 · answered by Croa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its the pressures of society. Kids are so young that they can easily be convinced what they see others doing is right. My friends were when I was younger. A lot of them are messed up now, because of the stupid pressures. Be secure in your self and think on your own.
2007-03-09 13:39:36 · answer #8 · answered by ~§uηƒℓσబєr§~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The motivation to connect with others was etched in to our brains over the course of evolution because group living makes it much easier to survive and reproduce than living alone.
2007-03-09 09:58:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
how old are you? if you are a young adult, then identity is found when in a group--trust me when you get older, you would rather not fit in than fit in
2007-03-09 09:29:42 · answer #10 · answered by alex grant 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋