I am due to tell my parents I am pregnant and am scared at what they will say! Because I am still living at home - me and my boyfriend are very happy with the news and are planning on getting our own place asap but am scared at what my parents will say because we weren't really prepared for all this eg. not having our own place and also I still owe my parents a bit of money (not a lot but a few hundred). Any advice?
2007-03-09 01:18:16 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Before you sit down and tell them have a plan for how your going to repay the money owed and how your going to handle the pregnancy and living situation. As a parent I would be easier to accept the news if I saw you were putting forth the effort to find a solution. Good luck!
2007-03-09 01:40:34 · answer #1 · answered by Karen S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's what I have learned - there is no good time to have a baby. You will never be ready until the time comes and you are thrust into the situation. Be honest with your parents - tell them you are excited but scared and are working hard to make sure the baby has a good life. Tell them you need them now more than ever (emotionally, not monetarily). If you have a good relationship with them (as I'm sure you do) things will go smoothly. The important thing is to be completely honest with them. If they aren't excited right away, give them time. It's big news to hear and process and it may take a while for them to get used to the idea of their "baby" having a baby!
Congratulations and good luck!
2007-03-09 01:33:14 · answer #2 · answered by poohb2878 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've already got a jump on things by not keeping it a secret and being brave enough to tell them.
I'm not sure how old you are but you have to realize it really doesn't matter how old a child is, a parent just doesn't want them to turn on the wrong road - if you know what I'm saying. I'm sure they want to see you finish school, have a great job, a secure place to live, insurance for your baby........etc!!
But here's the thing. You sit your parents down and tell them that you know that you might hurt them by telling them you're pregnant but it happened and there's no looking back. Ask them for their support and tell them that you really need it. Tell them that you might not have been so level headed when it came to conception (ie...meaning you didn't use protection) but you have stepped up to the plate and are going to be the responsible person you need to be to take care of this baby. Tell them you aren't asking them to take care of baby, just that you might need their moral support. Tell them that your plans haven't changed about going to school and getting that job, just that they've been altered a bit. Tell them that you've made a mistake and you know it has hurt them deeply but also tell them that out of all this, a beautiful baby will arrive that needs love and support from his entire family, especially his grandparents.
There really isn't a "good" way to tell parents but being honest and KEEPING A COOL HEAD will help. Don't get so worked up if they yell at you. Remember that is what they will do to vent their frustration, but in time that will pass. Keep cool. You are their baby and it's hard to see you growing up long before your time!!
Good luck chic. And a happy healthy pregnancy to you.
2007-03-09 01:29:19 · answer #3 · answered by momto3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are not under-aged and mature enough to understand what bringing a child into this world is all about, then don't worry too much about their reaction, they would come round especially if they know that you are responsible enough to take care of a child. You need to prove to your parents that you are up to the task by moving out and getting your own place and being financially responsible for yourself.
In any case, you would need to tell them at some point otherwise they would find out and probably be upset that you didn't come to them. So your partner and yourself should break the news to your parents. Congratulations and I hope it all goes well.
2007-03-09 01:29:39 · answer #4 · answered by swish 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I;m snot sure how old you are, but you obviously have a steady boyfriend who your parents know.
Don't be scared, your parents may be a little angry and shocked at first, but this is only because they love you and want the best for you.
You seem very mature and you have talked this over with your boyfriend, are you still at school? If you are make sure that you finish your education, I can't stress this enough. Ask at your local surgery for support groups for young mothers.
If you are older, I'm sure that you are a little scared but it will all work out fine as you seem to both want the baby and are preparing for it. Ask your parents for their support, but also show them how committed you are to making a success of your future with your partner and a new baby.
The sooner you tell them, the sooner you can relax and enjoy your pregnancy.
Good luck and congratulations
2007-03-09 01:28:53 · answer #5 · answered by Nickynackynoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With your partner beside you, sit your parents down and break the news to them. Granted they may not be over the moon initially and may be concerned as to how you are going to cope with having a new baby but in the end they will be delighted. It's not every day that they are told that they are going to be grandparents. They will be thrilled! Just be confident and open with them, tell them how you feel and what you want. They know you better than anyone and when you speak with them they will see how happy you and your partner are and all doubts that they may have will soon slip away. Be happy enjoy your pregnancy and Congratulations! xxx
2007-03-09 01:27:03 · answer #6 · answered by jan h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully, your parents will be delighted as long as you are happy. Don't be apologetic - you are having a baby!!!!. The fact that you mention the money is a bit odd - what difference does it make if you are not pregant and owe money or you are pregnant and owe money? Perhaps get your boyfriend around to break the news together.
2007-03-09 01:23:57 · answer #7 · answered by Bexs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure your boyfriend is with you he made your baby with you so he should be with you when you tell your parents, it will help your parents to take in the news if he is there standing by you. i know that you are worried but wot can your parents do the baby is inside you and not alot can change that. Your parents may be angry at first but they will get used to the idea.
You have to bite the bullet and find some way of telling your parents the longer you leave it the worse it could be
2007-03-09 01:36:47 · answer #8 · answered by nik2bitch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well they are going to be upset and the worst is they wont talk to you for about a month or so. Just tell them out flat that your pregnant and they dont have to worry b/c you and your boyfriend are going to be getting your own place soon. Well just remember this they are going to be mad and upset but in the end after that baby is born they are going to be so happy when they see there little grand baby
2007-03-09 01:32:46 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them. I waited to tell them after I TOLD EVERYONE ELSE BUT THEM and I was 10 weeks long when they found out. They weren't that happy with the news, but they were more upset they were the last to find out. I know next time, I will not do that again. Parents are an important part of your life and it would hurt them more not to know.
2007-03-09 01:27:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋