Any teen parents who are still together?

Question

Is it possible to last long with your bf or gf,and your pregnant?Im 19 and Im pregnant,My bf and I love each other very much and we are thinking of gettin married now,can our relationship last? I mena we are young and WE do want to get married its our decision.but can it last?

Answer 1

I was almost sixteen when I started dating my current husband, we got pregnant when I was eighteen had the baby at nineteen and got married shortly after I turned twenty. Our seven year anniversary will be in two months. Now I can't predict the future, but we are still happy together, he is still my best friend and the person that I want to spend my life with. You can stay together if you are devoted to each other and to each others happiness. Marriage is not always easy, and I won't lie to you, occasionally we argue, but I have never met a couple that didn't. I don't think that there is anyone who can gaurentee your life one way or the other, it is up to you and what you are willing to put into the things that you do that determines how things will turn out, best of luck to you. Congratulations on the baby too.

Answer 2

I got with my hubby when I was 16 and he was 18. We got pregnant with our first when I was 17 and he was 19. We got married. 4 months later we had our first child. FAST FORWARD..... we are now impatiently awaiting the birth of our 3rd daughter, 4th child. We have been together 10 years and married for almost 9. We are STILL happy, and still in love. I will not lie, it has been HARD. We have been through hell and back together. We just never let divorce come into play. Even when that seemed like the only option we knew it was not one for us and our children. If you want something bad enough you will make it work... No matter what! While I know my relationship is not the 'norm' I hope it give you hope and the understanding that together you can do it! Good luck and congrats on the baby!!

Answer 3

YES! Absolutely!! Out of all of our friends, I'd say 75% of them had kids between the ages of 17-19 and all but one couple are still together. Here are the ages of some of them -

one couple with a 5 year-old
one couple with a 4 year-old, 2-year old twins, and a 7 month old
one couple with a 5 and 1 year old

The key to staying together is realizing what's best for your family - you area family now!! - and doing it. Not fighting about stupid little stuff. Forgiveness. Shared goals and values. Working equally: for example if one of you works the one who stays home should do all the house work. Or if both of you work, the housework gets split 50/50. Money also, is one of the biggest things. Agree that your priorities will be rent, food, some emergency savings, and not childish stuff like the car you really want (you should only ever buy a car in cash - not in payments). That'll be your biggest obstacle right there - fighting about money. (Money=work=a representation of your life - so it's a touchy subject!)

Good luck! You guys will do great if you're ready to settle down and do that stuff - also make sure to have some fun once in a while! Congradulations on the baby!

Answer 4

We can not tell you if it will last or not, we have no way of knowing...If you two really love each other and want to be with each other the rest of your lifes then yes it may work but none can really say for sure it will work and you two will be together forever, just be sure you two are marrying each other because you love each other and not because of the baby.

I was 17 when I had a baby and me and the dad broke up, not because we did not care for each other but because he was in the Air Force and had to switch bases when I was still pregnant. he ended up in his hometown of Texas which is like a 24 hours drive from me. For one they would not allow anyone under 18 living on base and two I was only 17 and having a baby and still in school, I was scared being so young and did not want to leave my friends and family or my school.

By the time I reached 18 we had grown apart and after a lot of thinking I did not want my child to have the military life where we move around alot. My friend's mom was in the Air Force and she has lived in several diffrent states and countries and said it was hard on her and the longest place she ever stayed was here in MD for 4 years, I did not want that for my son and his dad agreed that it would not be fair to him , we want to try and have our son graduate HS with the kids he went to preschool with.

Good luck to you and your BF, yo should check out justmommies.com and go to the teen mommies and mommies2b board, they also have a DueDate board and I think a wedding board as well

Answer 5

Statistically, half of the marriages in America end in divorce right now, and, statistically, you have a better chance of staying together the older you are when you get married (with 30ish being the ideal age). HOWEVER, this does NOT mean that you won't last, and it does NOT mean that most couples who married at 30 will last (as you have seen from the people who have commented on their happy marriages).

Basically, when you are getting married, at any age, there is a risk it won't last. Be prepared to do the work and put in the time, and hopefully it will all turn out fine : )

Answer 6

If you make the commitment of marriage and choose to stick it out throught the tough times......take divorce out of your thought process, and make love a choice (Not a feeling) then any relationship can work. (Although, I am assuming here that he isn't abusive or addicted to any substance)

I was married at age 19 and will soon celebrate my 11th anniversary. So it is possible. Although you feel 19 is young; just a few years ago 18 was the norm to be married by; it is current society that has pushed it to later ages. My grandmother whom was married to my great grandfather til death married when she was 16 (not that I recommend this)

With that said, marriage is work. It isn't always easy. You get mad at each other, you drive each other crazy. But if you are willing to work at it, it also comes with so many benefits. With bad there is always good. Someone to be there when you need them, financial stability, shared memories etc.

Oh and just so you know we also have a 11.5 year old.

Answer 7

You're pregnant. Get married - it's the right thing to do because you are having a baby together. You might not last long but that is the least of your worries - facing the prospect of having a baby outside of marriage and facing marrying your boyfriend (whom you 'love very much') - ask yourself, why am I even asking this question?

Answer 8

According to statistics, the odds are not in your favor for a longlasting relationship. Too many things are happening when we're so young. However, even when we've done all the right things in a relationship, marriages still have only a 50 percent chance of staying together. Try your best to keep your relationship together, but the main thing you need to focus on is the child. He/she will be the bond between both of you forever.

Answer 9

My ex-boyfriends parents got pregnant at 15 and had him at 16... still married and have two children. It's possible. Plus, my oldest sister had a baby at 17 and she is married to the father and now has three beautiful children whom I am so attatched too.

Answer 10

it can definitely last my husband and i have been together for almost 8 years, since i was 15 and he was 18, we got pregnant long before we had planned and decided to get married sooner too but we are still going strong after all this time, dont get me wrong there are ups and downs in all relationships but it definitely can last.