I starting to hate my best friend,should i avoid her for good?

Question

i cant stand her whining, nagging..she acts like she knows everything. And she believes she's better than me in any way ...she keeps me down all the time. i always think that she brings negative vibe around me.

Answer 1

She's not your best friend and should be, at best, an acquaintance.

Start easing out of the "friendship" and spending your time in other activities and with other people.

If she asks why, tell her what you've told us. You can do it kindly, gently. It's also PRECISELY what she needs to hear. She may be hurt, may be unable to hear what you have to say, but if she asks tell her anyway.

If she says or shows any attempt to change her attitude, then don't walk away completely. Let her know that you're enjoying her company.

She may honestly not be aware of how she affects others, you, and this may just be the wake up call she needs to get her act together.

The only thing you have to lose here is a lousy friend who you won't miss for long. On the other hand, you have everything to gain--a better class of friends who are helpful, kind, and supportive of you. Friends who are happy bc you're happy.

Good luck.

Answer 2

Sorry to hear your best friend brings you down. When your around a person like this you will feel down and depressed with yourself because of the negative vibes you get from your friend. If I were you I would sit this person down and say how you feel. The only way you can be friends is if she closes the negative door and opens the positive one.Life is to short to be in this terr moil situation! When she hears what you have to say, she'll either change her ways or you will move on and find positive people whom laugh and share great thoughts with each other. Hope this helps. Cocoa

Answer 3

Tell her how you feel. It sounds commercial, but really, she might not know that these's doing it. If she's whining and complaining, try to help solve her problems, then she'll stop whining.

But as for thinking she's better than you... well, I vote for a girl to girl talk. Just approach her calmly and explain how you feel in a polite way. If she lashes out, then maybe you two need some time apart. I had this happen to me, but I didn't go about it the right way and ended up losing a good friend over something stupid.

Answer 4

I have gone through this same exact problem! I've always wanted to talk out the problem with her, but I didn't. Big mistake! Well anyways we found this one friend that we started to hang out with and everything was going on fine untill my friend decided that she was too good for me and started to hang out with this girl even more. To make matters worse this girl started hating me one day for some reason. To make a long story short I lost one of my best friends over something that could have been talked out and avoided. Even today I look back and feel guilty that I didn't even try to do anything to save the friendship. So to answer your question, just talk it out and if she really is a true friend she will understand. If she doesn't oh well just find someone that is worth your time and your friendship!

Answer 5

No you should not ignore her. I think best way to make such people realize about their mistakes is to show them how to behave. If you behave the way she does, she wont know what she did wrong. But if you respond her positively against her negative attitude, she will realize it and this will also raise your place in her heart. You have been best friends, this might be due to some mis-understanding, which can be found out and cleared away like this.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

well if she is your best freind, well maybe u should talk to her about it. communication is key in any relationship and u should tell her that it is pissing you off. If she doesnt understand or rufuses and thinks that you are paranoid or just jealous, then look for some other freinds... why waste your time being around a whining, nagging freind and who always thinks shes right when you can be with more supportive, caring freinds which are out there! you dont just have to stick to one freind ya know, thats wat i have learnt from past experiences!

Answer 8

I wouldn't avoid her so much as i would just let the relationship fizzle out itself. i have a friend of 15 years right now, but he's pulling the same crap, and I haven't spoken to him in 3 weeks, and we are usually on the phone every hour. I just don't call him, don't make plans with him, and if he calls me I make the conversation short and sweet, and say nothing about myself. If he wasn't so self absorbed maybe he would notice.

Answer 9

apparently she ain't yo best friend anywayz and this is why I say that -best friends don't put you down and try to keep you down(best friends pull you up when you fall down), best friends don't set negative vibe(they avoid negative things and try to do the best for the both of you) a best friend is someone who will die for you( there is only one best friend in this world and he is Jesus) so leave her because she is going to cause nothin but trouble.Good Luck

Answer 10

tell her whats on ur mind n if she doesnt change then sure ignore her for good negative vibes r the wrose they make u feel depress