should i abort my baby?

Question

he has down syndrome

OK, IM GOING TO ABORT IT.
THANKS SO MUCH PPLS

Answer 1

I feel strongly that you shouldn't.........but that comes from having the sweetest little sister-in-law anyone could have. My husbands youngest sister had downs syndrome. She was the most loving, sweet little girl I've ever known. She required lots of guidance and care, but she was the apple of my father-in-laws eye. To him every ounce of extra care she needed was worth more than he could express. To him, and to all of us, she was not a burden. She was a gift. She died when she was 13 years old with a congenital heart condition, so I'm not saying she didn't come without heartache and emotional challenges for us, but not one of us would trade the time we had with her for anything.

I wish you the very best.............whatever decision you make.

Answer 2

That is not the kind of question you should take lightly and this is not the best place to ask. You need to speak to a professional about the pro's and con's of both abortion and living with/raising disabled children There is no right answer to this, esp as downs syndrome doesn't automatically mean that there will be lots of ajoined afflictions. A weak heart is usually a cert, but mental capacity is not. Your child may have no other mental or physicals issues what-so ever, so you must think carefully, seek independant advice and go from there. What does your partner think (if he is still on the scene)? He should be allowed some input. I have worked in special needs for some years and may be able to give some guidance to resources if you need them and are in the uk.

Answer 3

You are such a fool. You never know what is in store for you and your children of the future. Your questions regarding babies are quite frightening and your local authorities should keep an eye on you and any children that you may have in the future. You are inconsiderate and disrespectful to all the parents out there who have been advised that their baby has downs syndrome or have given birth to a child with downs syndrome and you are a complete a ss as you could not possibly understand how difficult and hard this can be to deal with. Get yourself a life you sad git and stop being a pain in the rear. Maybe it's time you grew up.

Answer 4

I am sorry that you have received this bad news. You have a very difficult decision to make. All the advice I can give you is to ignore the silly bible bashers on here who may try and make you feel terribly guilty if you decide to have a termination. The fact is everyone is different, some people can cope with a disabled child and some people simply cannot - that is not a crime. Think about the support network you have around you - do you have a partner, if so, how does he feel about this. Luckily in this country, you have a choice, you do not have a child if you feel this is not the right thing to do. Although not everyone agrees with this, terminations have been the right decision for many many women. Talk to close friends and your doctor. Perhaps you could do some research into downs and talk to women who have downs children AND adults and find out how this has affected their lives. Best of luck.

Answer 5

I'm so sorry.
I can't imagine having to make the choice you are facing.
Many people are going to tell you what a horrible person you are for even considering abortion. Don't listen to them only you can know what is right for you.
I'd say you have a lot of soul searching to do. Research Down Syndrome and the possible effects on your child, then decide if it would be easier for you to live with those effects or live with the guilt of losing a child.
I had an abortion at 15 and even though in my head I know it was the right decision, at 32 I still live with the guilt in my heart.
Whatever you decide, you must forgive yourself for having doubts about continuing the pregnancy.
Life does go on and whatever you decide it will even be good one day.

Answer 6

I am not a fan of abortion and all babies are a gift, but and that's a big but yolanda, you will be taking on a lifetime of care, and not even that so much is what happens to the child when you die. who will care for it? and will they give it the same care as you would. if you abort this one and something happens and you can never have another one, how ya gonna feel? you must be getting older because of the down syndrome so this may be your last shot, you may have older kids and they will bring along grandchildren which you can caudle and love. all things considered, it could be the joy of your life or the demise of it. no one can see the future. I would have to let it live and hope for the best. it was given to you for a reason, maybe some sort of test of character. will you kill to maintain your own status quo or will you have compassion, not a good place for any mother to be in.

Answer 7

This is such a hard question. I am 7 weeks pregnant but I live on a small Greek Island, if your test results show downs here, they try to force you to abort as the island has no facilities and very little understanding of downs.

If you live in UK and you have support from family , friends and of course local hospitals/health care groups I don't see why you should have any problems. People with downs can live full and happy lives, provided they have good facilities etc..

Are you married do you have close family? Please talk to them and tell them how you feel, find out how they feel about this.

You can go to the following site for more information

www.downs-syndrome.org.uk

i hope it all works out OK for you, good luck.

I wish I'd checked you out before i wasted my time and energy genuinely trying to help. You are a total waste of space, get a life.

Answer 8

When i had my ultrasound they came back telling me there was a chance of down syndrome. So of course it through me for a loop and i couldn't stop crying for a week straight.
All these emotions and questions ran through my head. But i asked myself even if this baby does have down syndrome what would it matter? It's still my baby that the love of my husband and i created together.
The only true way of finding out was by testing the fluid around the baby and when they told me the risks i said, "no way"!
Even if my baby girl was to be sick i know that the love i have for her would get me through the years and i would do anything for her. I would dedicate the rest of my life to her and give her that chance to prove everyone wrong.
Good news, the % came back low but for some reason she is born with down's it still wouldn't make a difference to me!
Do what you feel is right in your heart.

Answer 9

You've had some harsh answers... Don't take them, to heart! You will know what is best to do. I always said if anything like that was wrong with my 2, i would abort for the baby's sake. We live in a cruel world where children can be the worst, judgemental of people. Look at all your options, supports and councellors! I wish you the best of luck and hope what ever you decide, you live with peacefully with no regrets!

TOSSER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Go put your head down the toilet or something useful!

Answer 10

That's a question that only you and your parter can answer. Bringing up a baby with downs syndrome can be very hard work, but he is YOUR baby - and they're all hard work.

You really don't want to be asking the world at large what to do, especially when they are anonymous and don't have to live with the results of their responses.

Talk to your partner, and your family and decide this amongst yourselves.

Whichever path you decide to follow, I seriously wish you the best of luck. Take care...