I split up from my boyfriend yesterday. I'm very very sad. I want him back evn though it's not right. I am at my desk trying so hard to keep the tears at bay. Can anyone give any soothing words? I realise how desperate I sound but it's really a case of anything to make me feel better. Sorry, and thank you xx
2007-03-09 00:55:12 · 13 answers · asked by rollacoasta 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You know deep down you have done the right thing, be proud of that!
2007-03-09 00:58:30 · answer #1 · answered by keefy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that. Of course you are sad. You say you want him back even though that's not right. It's very possible then that you know he's not the one for you but let's face it, starting over again isn't easy...it's downright scarey at times.
Change your routine this weekend. If you two went to bars on friday night and to the movies Saturday...don't do either of those things. Try not to stay in your apartment all weekend. Go out and buy yourself a treat. Eat out or order in your favourite food..maybe something he didn't like. Buy a few new DVD's (or rent) and invite a girlfriend over. Heck, even have one sleep over and it can be a slumber party...never too old for that!
Good luck...I know they say time heals, it does but it will take maybe a little more time than you hoped. Get out and meet someone new.
2007-03-09 01:09:10 · answer #2 · answered by NewGrandma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what darling,i have been in a "relationship" for 4 years now and its soooooo un healthy but likeyou say, you still want them even though its not right. I wish i would have finished it with him long time ago, then maybe my head would be sorted out and i wouldnt feel all insecure and feel needy towards him. I know its easier said than done, but girl, you are doing what i wish i could have the courage to do right now. Yeah i aint doing it now, but sooner or later, i gotta do what your doing. Get it outta the way and look forward to summer being single flirty and free. There is so much to life and you NEVER know what is round the corner. !!
Goodluck and DONT LOOK BACK. XX
2007-03-09 01:03:03 · answer #3 · answered by london lady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are grieving a loss. It takes time to accept the loss and move on. But after a while, you won't feel the pain anymore.
You split up with your boyfriend for a reason...this reason may be why you should not be a couple. Now that you are separate, this has created an opportunity. You see, there are literally hundreds of thousands of wonderful guys out there who are much more compatible with you, much more caring, and who will appreciate you for who you are and love you. Some of them will touch your life...but if you are attached to someone else, you won't be free to explore the relationship. Now you are.
I encourage you to accept the loss and look forward to what's coming next...something wonderful! Make it happen...
2007-03-09 01:01:33 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lock yourself in your room with a box of tissues. Put on your favourite music and then cry your heart out. For 24 hrs or 48 hrs, whatever it takes. Nobody can help you overcome this very deep hurt. Only time can heal this no matter how much advice and encouragement you are given. Good luck!
2007-03-09 06:54:14 · answer #5 · answered by MaggieSA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Focus on yourself right now and what you need to feel better and to take care of yourself. You said that you know the relationship wasn't right, so concentrate on those things for a while. It's ok to cry to let those emotions out. After the tears, comes the strength.
Be proud that you made a good decision for yourself. Take care of you for a while now. Good luck and feel better!
2007-03-09 01:18:49 · answer #6 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This might not sound to comforting but "the right choices in life are often the most hardest". Sometimes we may not want to make those choices but in the end it can either be you can be miserable with him for longer or you can rebuild and start a fresh with new hope. Keep your head up and look forward, don't look back
2007-03-09 01:08:41 · answer #7 · answered by Bruce L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not easy.
i have been there!
nothing i can say
can make you feel better!
yesterday event
will always be in your mind for a few days.
i am sorry.
you need to cry,
it will make you feel much better!
take a day off.
talk to a good friend!
for now..
if you love someone set it free,
if it comes back to you,
then its yours to keep.
but if does not come back to you..
it was never meant to be!
I bet there are alot of guys
waiting to take you out on a date now!! good luck!
be happy you are single
and available again!!
(i meant it in a good way)
2007-03-12 03:13:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a few weeks (if not sooner) your life will be completely back to normal. You split up for a good reason, didn't you?
2007-03-09 01:54:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every cloud has a silver lining - The sun will come out soon , just wait for the storm to clear.
Keep smiling
x
2007-03-09 00:58:54 · answer #10 · answered by Leesa 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Life is like a cucumber
Sometimes its in your hand, and sometimes its up your @ss
You just got to ride it out!
Call up some friends, put on your dancing shoes and go out and enjoy yourself... each time he pops into your head tell yourself its his loss, not yours!
2007-03-09 01:05:13 · answer #11 · answered by billy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋