My ex partner blames everybody else for making him drink. Is this the case usually with problem drinkers? I find it tiring
2007-03-09 00:53:06 · 10 answers · asked by Abigail 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My family has several alcoholics in it, the closest to me being my brother. I have learned over the years that they are what I call Professional Victims. They think nothing of how their behavior affects others, only how other people's behavior affects them. What it boils down to is they need a reason to drink so they can blame everyone else for causing their drinking problem. Nothing is ever their fault! It's always some wrong, real or imagined, that has been done to them. Then they can drink because the offender has driven them to it, it's not their fault. Your ex has to want to quit, but sometimes alcoholics believe so strongly that they are not to blame for their addiction that they will never be able to quit. Only with counseling will he be able to figure out what and why he is self-medicating but he has to take the first step. Good luck to you both.
2007-03-09 01:15:19 · answer #1 · answered by I am so blessed! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lots of the time alcohol is a scapegoat. maximum folk % to permit their inhibitions down lots extra then alcohol might do by technique of itself because of the fact they might, and can blame it on the alcohol. it particularly is the thank you to stay away from very own accountability lots of the time, permit off steam and excuse undesirable habit they wanted to bask in. That being reported: definite, in adequate parts or for some human beings alcohol can heavily mess them up and that they lose the means to make sturdy judgements. that is not as person-friendly because it particularly is made out to be, and with maximum of persons 'faking' it it particularly is puzzling to tell while it does ensue. the human beings this happens too commonly know it and drink moderately or under no circumstances after, or shop eating because of the fact of habit, and or irresponsible habit. in certainty whether this happens you're nevertheless to blame on your movements, inebriated isn't an excuse.
2016-09-30 10:35:24 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how normal it is - but it's what a lot of alcoholics do. It's always easier to blame someone else than it is to acknowledge that you are the problem.
2007-03-09 01:01:19 · answer #3 · answered by Zabes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes! Probably the number one thing an alchoholic does, blames everyone else! I grew up surrounded by alchoholics. They are very selfish to. Just remember it is a true disease.
2007-03-09 00:58:45 · answer #4 · answered by kellyann1371 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes that is very common. They feel everything is someone elses fault. That way they don't have to deal with their part of the problem
2007-03-09 01:00:52 · answer #5 · answered by megan261980 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its easier for them to project blame on others, as if they took the blame and were accountable they would have to deal with it, and do something about it. its part of not being mature and not wanting to change things.
2007-03-09 01:48:03 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, he's an alcoholic, and that makes him lie and blame... when he is ready to stop, he will realize that HE did it, noone Made him
2007-03-09 00:56:41 · answer #7 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to be careful with alcoholics, or any other addict, because they will lie to you to get what they want. if worse comes to worse, make him go to AA meetings.
hope this helps!
2007-03-09 01:23:58 · answer #8 · answered by nitropenguin17 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2007-03-09 01:27:46 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and I agree, it is very tiring!!!!!
2007-03-09 00:56:58 · answer #10 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋