is there anything anyone can suggest to increase it as it is putting pressure on my relationship.
2007-03-09 00:45:57 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Ok, so I am gathering from about 3 answers that the pressure is mainly from my boyfriend, how would you explain it to him?
2007-03-09 00:51:10 · update #1
i am the same i've only got 4 weeks to go and i still dont have my sex drive back
2007-03-09 05:26:39 · answer #1 · answered by cheekybluebed 6 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Well, since you are pregnant, you can't take any kind of an enhancer, so you will have to rely on natural stimulants. It is hard to find the energy when you are pregnant, and the raging hormones change everything. However, sex can be a very healthy way to prepare your body for delivery, so try to remember that. I know you are probably starting to feel less and less attractive everyday, but remember, there is nothing more beautiful than a woman that is carrying a child, and I can say that, I have had two kids. You are not fat, so don't let that depress you. If you have a few extra minutes a day, try to stimulate yourself manually, and see if this doesn't bring back some of your drive. Try planning a romantic dinner for you and your partner, and have a private date night, you won't get many of those when the baby comes. There are lots of books on foods and smell that are natural aphrodesiacs(spelling?), but I don't know the titles, fortunatly for me, and my husband, my drive went through the roof from abour 3 months till the last week, and it has stayed that way since the baby was born 8 months ago. I know that this can be stressful for a relationship, so most importantly, you need to talk, a lot!!, it is important to let eachother know how you are feeling and why, but above all, regardless of sex, you still love eachother. Best of luck, and congrats!!
2007-03-09 00:56:12 · answer #2 · answered by veachypoo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your body is going through a lot right now, including ever-changing hormones. While some women's sex drives actually increase during pregnancy, many find that they completely lose interest. Your body is just too tired making a baby to want to do anything else :P
You may just need to give your sex drive a 'jump start'. Try setting up a romantic evening--light some candles, turn on some music, put something on that makes you feel sexy (easier said than done during pregnancy!), and then talk to your partner, snuggle, give each other back rubs. For half an hour, make the rule that you can't talk about anything pregnancy related, anything work related--in fact, anything about anything other than the two of you. You'll remember what it's like to be 'in the mood' before you know it!!
Good luck!
2007-03-09 00:52:58 · answer #3 · answered by Christal 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
your partner need to realise that this is quite normal. a lot of pregnant women lose their sex drive when they are pregnant. i lost mine when i was pregnant, and my boyfriend was very understanding about it. if your boyfriend pressurises u into having sex when u don't really want it, then u are going to end up resenting him. you body is going through loads of changes, your hormones are all over the place, and u will probably feel permanently tired. try to reach some kind of compromise... maybe limit sex to once or twice a week, and make sure he's gentle with u. if the arguments continue then it might be a good idea to get some relationship counselling... u'd also better warn him that u won't be able to have sex for 6 weeks once u have given birth.
2007-03-09 00:55:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend/husband is teh one putting pressure if it's abotu your sex drive. It is completely normal for some women, especially int eh secodn trimester to lose interest for a while. Just explain, or have your OB do it, that some women do adn it will pick back up, if he's patient he may find that it even increases before too long.
2007-03-09 00:49:20 · answer #5 · answered by Betsy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your body is going through many changes at the moment that sex drive will change (both up and down). If your relationship is strong, your partner should realise this and not put any pressure on you.
2007-03-09 00:48:57 · answer #6 · answered by Beanbag 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Loss of sex drive normal, you will probably get it back again with avengence! If fella pressurising you, remind him it was him who got you in this predicament! Explain to him that you are feeling tired or simply say that the midwife advises that you avoid it at the moment - always works!! It may be that he finds your more curvy body sexy and just wants to show you, however, I would suggest that you talk to him.
2007-03-11 12:17:08 · answer #7 · answered by LAURENCE B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its so normal to not have a sex drive while pregnant. If your man doesn't understand what you are going through then tough luck for him. He should probably read up on why you don't have the desire for sex and stop pestering you about it.
2007-03-09 00:54:34 · answer #8 · answered by CeeCee19 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend is pressuring you to "perform" more... Explain to him the changes you are going through. Your hormones are all out of wack, your back hurts.... all that. I had to explain this to my husband too.... Most men won't like it, but its YOU caring this child, not him.
Good luck... and don't stress about it!
2007-03-09 02:18:35 · answer #9 · answered by gabriellemelissa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to feel like this your body is changing. Sometimes you get your sex drive back later in the pregnancy and others you don't.
2007-03-09 00:54:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell your boyfreind to bear with you, you will feel like it in a couple of weeks, i was the same in my pregnancys.
And theres other things you can do if you dont want to have sex if you know what i mean.
But to be honest your bf shouldnt be putting pressure on you, tell him once you have the baby you might not want to for ages and he will just have to accept it.
2007-03-09 00:55:45 · answer #11 · answered by hayles 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋