If you are both in love but one person has decided that the others actions are working for either of them and no changes have been made is there hope? Do people really change and can they make the other person realize their changes in a short amount of time or does it have to end on a break and just remain friends? and when someone says I need a break and the other has realized the fault of their actions when is the appropriate time to bring them up? do you give the other a little time and how much? Emotional train wreck.
2007-03-09 00:24:40 · 10 answers · asked by Rosey83 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Effort has to be made by both. as to share responsibility and compromise.
We change daily some things and somethings not. Change is something that can not be stopped.Communication and finding a way that change works for both. If the person who needs a break, so the other can realize their faults, is not working on building a relationship. They want what they want. This person is wanting total control over the other by the way of manipulating. Step back and look at this again. Is there really any fault? or is it just the difference of who you are or what you believe in. Placing blame and fault on other and punishes them by leaving or not speaking til the other , is beat down and made to believe its all them , Trust me this is not a healthy relationship. What makes one person right all the time. No one is right all the time and no one is wrong all the time. MOTTO: NO FAULT NO BLAME. You will remain a emotional train wreak if you continue to stay involved with someone who only wants what they want, you will lose all self respect and become depressed. Don't give any one that much power of you. Love who you are and know you are good.
2007-03-09 00:47:20 · answer #1 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A real good indicator that a relationship is in trouble is when you have to ask that question on here. Youre beginning to have doubts about it and youre hoping one of us has a sure telltale way of letting you know. Sorry, there isnt but you know deep inside if it is. Like in life itself, there are no guarantees in love relationships that something is going to last and for how long. Maybe this relationship was never meant to be so it may be time to move on and start over again. This is the chance we take in relationships, so be thankful for the time you two had together, learn from it, and move on. Maybe the next one you enter will be the one God had destined for you. We never know what tomorrow may bring. Good luck
2007-03-09 01:07:47 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anytime you realize your own fault is a good time to bring it up. If you do not express where you feel you have made mistakes, how can you expect your partner too? Also, it helps them be more willing to admit their own part in the problems too, because they won't feel like your blaming it all on them.
You could try admitting your weaknesses, and perhaps give them an idea of what a reasonable thing you might be able to try in order to not recreate the problem (both of you should be realistic and realize that your not going to pull of a change the first time you try).
I'll tell you what my mother keeps telling me (which makes me crazy every time she says it) "You two just have to sit down and talk it out!" (can we say Aaaarg! Moms!)
2007-03-09 00:57:20 · answer #3 · answered by Lady M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well this is what i did i would give them time to take a break and be friends and as friends i would bring up where you too made some mistakes and see if you can start all over. if you really love someone it takes time to make changes in life and the way you are used to doing things in your life and made if you too can start over and start from the beginging of your relationship and have comacation in that relationship in order to make a relationship work. i have been married two times and i found this with each relationship you have that you need to talk about things to have a relationship and ihope that this will help you out on what you needed
2007-03-09 00:43:09 · answer #4 · answered by january s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The chemistry of a relationship pretty well sets it's path from the get go. The thing to remember is this:
Relationships that are meant to be develop quite easily. They are not meant to be difficult and emotionally draining. They are meant to be rewarding.
We are supposed to share our lives with each other and not "live for" the one we love or care about. Changes shouldn't be necessary or demanded.
A little time to try and work it out is fine, however, do not waste time running in circles when you could have someone that is really right for you and you for them.
Best of luck to you...life just seems to have a way of working things out.
2007-03-09 00:53:50 · answer #5 · answered by rggiggles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emotional wreck. Don't waste time on a sinking ship, even rats run from a fire storm. The number one way to tell it's over is when your in the er after a car wreck and they say to you "Hows the car". Pack.
2007-03-09 00:45:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things are generally a lot easier to get into than out of. Most people, at some time in their lives find themselves in a relationship that is basically over.
We hang on, because it is not quite uncomfortable enough to warrant the upheaval of a breakup, but we know that the end is inevitable.
No one likes a drama, though, so if your partner is faintly tolerable, many people hang in there out of pure habit.
If more than five of the following things are applicable to you and your partner, maybe it is time for you to bail out:
Who's that? Your partner starts to go out constantly with new friends that you don’t know. New and unfamiliar names crop up in conversations.
Future imperfect. He starts talking about the future in ways that obviously do not include you – babies and Himalayan expeditions do not go hand-in-hand.
Sorry, sorry, sorry. You find yourself constantly apologising for things which are not your fault, just to keep the peace.
Just us? The two of you are no longer able to do nothing together. The thought of a long weekend away in the mountains with just the two of you, where there are no distractions, makes you come up in hives.
Didn't I tell you? Your partner confides in other people rather than in you. They know about the drama at work, or the financial crisis, before you do.
Beds are for sleeping in. You don’t really respond on a sexual level to your partner, although you find other people sexually attractive.
Strictly business. If your partner had to go on a business trip on your birthday, you would not be entirely devastated. You can think of quite a number of fun ways of spending the day - or the evening.
Safety in numbers. You prefer to socialise with larger groups of people rather than being alone with your partner.
Women only. You start taking part in activities that obviously exclude your partner, such as a women’s writing group or a men’s fitness group.
A 'space' cadet? The word ‘space’ starts creeping into your conversations. No couple can do everything together, but wanting space all the time means it's time to pack those bags.
Out with the ex. You find out that your partner went out with an ex-girlfriend and it does not upset you at all. In fact, you find yourself oddly hopeful. In fact, your exes are starting to look more and more attractive.
That's not right Your partner criticises or corrects you in front of others (Should you be eating that with all the weight you’ve picked up?)
Not that again. You no longer find your partner’s jokes funny and you jump each other’s punchlines. You feel as if you could commit murder if you heard the story about her grandmother's poodle one more time.
What was that again? You forget anniversaries and other details about your relationship, such as where exactly you met, where you went on a first date and so forth.
Marooned? If you had to choose a person with whom to spend a week on a deserted island, you are not sure it would be your partner.
Bad gifts. You don’t give any thought to buying the right present for your partner for birthdays or Christmas. Even worse, you send someone else, such as a secretary, to buy the gift.
Guns blazing. Your choice of movies swings from romantic to movies concerned with violent retribution. No more 'Sleepless in Seattle' - you now take out 'The Punisher' or 'American Psycho'.
Who's jealous? You feel consumed by jealousy when you see your old boyfriend with his new wife. And she's pregnant, to top it all.
Going, going. You start making mental notes about how the furniture and the friends could be divided. And where you could go if you had to move. And how you could afford it.
2007-03-09 01:30:45 · answer #7 · answered by sexybabe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-05 11:10:12 · answer #8 · answered by brenneman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a woman belongs beside a man, NOT at his feet.
Love yourself enough to know you deserve better in life. Things happen for a reason, Theres something better waiting for you. Dont be a weak woman, "be strong, and move on!"
2007-03-09 01:02:45 · answer #9 · answered by Lace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a counselor and talk to them. This may help your mental situation.
2007-03-09 00:29:53 · answer #10 · answered by Confussedhere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋