- Drama from my mother
- Constant criticism from both parents
- Constant embarrassment in public
- The most boring, ridiculous tasks in the world must be performed for their happiness (temple...etc...)
2007-03-09 00:19:09 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
I must have left out the most important fact - I'm 24 years old, goddammit.
2007-03-09 00:36:49 · update #1
Because their own lives were so inadequate they need other's lives.
2007-03-13 00:27:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you become a parent, you will SOOOO understand what they are feeling for you and why they do the things they do!
It is through complete, unconditional love...
I hated my parents, and now, my 10 year old hates me most of the time... She says i critise her, i'm an embarrasement and i'm always going off on one for no reason... (Drama)
I alwasy say, you will never ever love your parents, a fraction of the amount they love you, and after having 2 children, i can say that is the case... my love for them is immense!!!
Just try and remember, they are a different generation, so not as cool as you! The criticism is more than likley trying to motivate you to better yourself, so you don't turn out to be a nobody, becasue they want you to have an easy life when you are older, and not struggle! Its all for the love they have for you.
And the embarrasment in public, is your lack of experience to deal with diffrent situations and relations - you'll grow to manage that...
Do something really really nice for them tonight, out of the blue... and i bet you will reap the rewards!
Good luck, and go easy on em... no one can ever tell you how to do it right, but enough tell you when you do it wrong!!
2007-03-09 08:30:16 · answer #2 · answered by jenny w 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I asked the same question when I was a teenager. I just didn't get it. Now I'm the mother of a teenager (yikes!)... I like to think that I'm less critical than my mom was, but every now and then, I can actually hear her in the words I say. It's like it's ingrained into you. We don't want to see our kids growing up because they become more independent... We want them to need us. My son did something a few months ago that floored me. He came over to me and gave me a hug... IN FRONT OF HIS FRIENDS. Then he whispered, "now that we got the embarrassment out of the way and everyone knows I love you, can you go away and give us some space?" It was the first time since he was 12 that he has hugged me first. Since then, he and I have talked more. He tells me (without being nasty) when he needs me to back off. I try harder not to criticize him. He still has to do his chores though... (Gets him into the habit of learning what has to be done around the house for when he has kids of his own to order around) :)
2007-03-09 08:29:54 · answer #3 · answered by NaturalPhotos 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because they worry too much. They think, if you are trusted with a car, then you will crash!
They forbid me from driving when I was 16...I joined the Marines when I was 18 to their BITTER DIAPPOINTMENT.
Now, my parents know that, having killed 3 grown-asss men in combat, I must have learned to drive a car.
But to answer you question, it is definitely genetic.
Once, I lost a $700 camcorder at Niagra Falls (it was stolen). We only realized that we had lost it when eating at a Pizza Hut.
Guess what? My dad started BEATING ME in public! I am not White American like in my avatar and there were a lot of White people in the restaurant. I was so embarrased.
2007-03-09 08:25:22 · answer #4 · answered by Marine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're 24 move out or have less contact, then they won't criticise,embarrass or bore you anymore.
That doesn't mean never have anything to do with them again just keep the contact down a bit.
My mum's lovely but I can only but up with her for so long and my sister can only manage abot 10 mins with her before she feels the urge to scream.
At the end of the day our parents are only human and once we grown up we have no reason to get on well with them than any other person we know.
2007-03-09 09:04:28 · answer #5 · answered by mistyblue 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes, i resented my folks and would still be defying them in thought word and deed..but they died and took all the fun away..
well, as soon as i could i booted my kids to the curb and told them to fend for themselves..i would rather pay their board then to board them.
I knew when i was a kid that i was screwed as my parents were only middle class at best...so
when my kids were eighteeen i got a young broad to replace their jerk of a mother and told them to not let the door hit them in the bum on the way out ...you think i am kidding but i am serious...children may love their parents but they rarely forgive them..i know i did not..and i still don't ...those buggers
2007-03-09 08:26:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all parents. Most are loving, considerate & caring. There are annoying people in every field, as there are annoying children. Could it be that you are criticized because you have done something very annoying?
2007-03-09 08:25:05 · answer #7 · answered by MoiMoii 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because we love our kids.
Who are you calling annoying!?!? Have you been talking to my 25 year old son?
We're still your parents even after we're dead!
2007-03-09 08:59:17 · answer #8 · answered by ViolationsRus 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For now, just put up with it, you won't understand it until you become a parent yourself!
2007-03-09 08:22:02 · answer #9 · answered by Andromeda Newton™ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
and just think 1 day you will turn out just like um lol
2007-03-09 14:30:45 · answer #10 · answered by TANYA A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋