My husband is balding and he's pretty young (32). He is very self conscience about it. He takes off his hat for showers and at bedtime. I think he looks just as good as he did before and I can't imagine other people notice or care. Is there anything I can do to help him get over this or is he just destined to wear a hat for the rest of his life? How have you dealt with this issue?
2007-03-09 00:15:10 · 8 answers · asked by Wendy B 5 in Health ➔ Men's Health
I realized it wasn't a big issue when my wife raved about how "hot" Patrick what's-his-name is (The guy who plays Captain Picard on Star trek). Throw in Michael Jordan and it became apparent that baldness done right is very sexy for women. If he struggles with thin hair, like he is now, it is very unsexy because women don't like men who lack self-confidence.
Tell him how sexy you think THOSE men are and how good you'd think he looked if he did the "shave & treatment" thing. He needs something to restore his self-confidence and you're the best candidate for this.
2007-03-09 00:21:31 · answer #1 · answered by wizbangs 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Once and for all, I will explain this ONE LAST TIME, before putting it in blogform. As our hominid ancestors in the African heat evolved thinning body hair, which enabled them to hunt, scavenge and forage in the hottest part of the day, while others were resting in the shade, some of them also developed thinning hair on their heads as well, and since up to 40% of the blood in the body can go to the brain, the extra cooling due to evaporation of perspiration gave those males an additional advantage, enabling them to stay out longer, and return to the tribe with more than the others, who needed to find shade. This gave them reputations with the females of being good providers, so they got more sexual opportunities, and passed on that characteristic to their offspring. It has been noted that balding men often have high levels of testosterone, and because females have much lower levels of that hormone, they rarely suffer hair loss to the same extent at a young age. Those high levels of testosterone also made those males more aggressive and determined, which helped them to succeed. It is no coincidence that males do not generally start going bald until the late teens, as skin cancer would have eliminated those in which it did from the breeding popupation at a far greater rate. It generally takes around 25 years for sunburn to turn into skin cancer, and if the young males were bald shortly after birth, they would have been eliminated from the breeding population too early, but in those times, they did not live very long, so it didn't matter if they died at 35 or so, after they fathered offspring, hence the increase in testosterone levels at puberty (not before, when it would have been counterproductive), expressed in one way in those males as hair loss. Puberty would have occured earlier than it does now, as it does with the other great apes, and also the pygmies and Kung in southern Africa today, where a female can reach puberty at the age of 5, where most others reach it at between 8 and 11. [ By the way, I have a full head of hair; this has nothing to do with me, so I can be dispassionate and analytical.]
2007-03-09 09:15:50 · answer #2 · answered by CLICKHEREx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was worried about it too when it happened to me. In fact I saw a dermotologist to see if there was anything I could do.
The doctor opens the door to come into the exam room and he doesn't have a single hair on top of his head. Lol, you can imagine how I felt. Needless to say I didn't mention my getting bald,lol. It's genetics, they do have meds that you can rub on that MIGHT help . I've decided to embrace my baldness. It's part of me and if people don't like it SO WHAT.
2007-03-09 08:25:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I shaved my head 10 years ago and it's one of the best decisions I could have ever made. I used to cover my thinning hair with a hat and I know what he's going through. Have him cut his hair really, really short or shave it. It will be an enormous burden off his mind.
2007-03-09 08:25:11 · answer #4 · answered by the answer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am balding and my wife is going in the opposite direction. She is always checking my spot, as if gloating over the fact that I am "flawed". It bothers me not, but her reactions are more of the embarrassment
2007-03-09 08:22:32 · answer #5 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't like that I'm loosing my hair but I'm not uncomfortable about it. One needs to come to terms with oneself. It's my body and its who I am, it won't come back. Move on to something important.
2007-03-09 08:23:02 · answer #6 · answered by milittleguy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's now fashionable
Tell him to shave it it will look like he did it on purpose
2007-03-09 08:21:04 · answer #7 · answered by snowluk 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
does not bother me
2007-03-09 10:21:52 · answer #8 · answered by traveller 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋