My boyfriend is great in bed and will do anything and everything I want BUT he won't tell me what he likes/wants. He's certainly not shy about talking about what we do. He's always making sure it's great for me, I'd like to return the favour
2007-03-09 00:09:10 · 11 answers · asked by bumpity-bump 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
bump,
Some dudes are givers and it gets him off watching you get your cookies.
Seems you're already doing what he likes...
2007-03-09 00:21:21 · answer #1 · answered by Wolfsburgh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, I get the same problem.
Whilst some women think it would be amazing to have such a generous lover it can really get annoying!
If he came home from work and I thought I'd do something nice for him for a change he'd inevitably take over and it would end up being about me.
Some men just don't understand that if, just once, they lie back and let us do all the work we're not going to explode into a fit and tell everyone how crap they are in bed.
Sometimes we like to be apreciated, and that may mean letting us please them once in a while.
I'm sure if you explain this it might let him open up a little.
Sounds like he wants to be this uber lover who satisfies you completely. Let him know it's give and take and you want to do a bit more giving.
2007-03-09 01:17:21 · answer #2 · answered by Rainbow-Taster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If only we all had the same issues...!
I think you ought to not worry too much about that - less stress on him means more enjoyment on (ahem), I mean for you... the last thing you need to do is to knock a good thing.
If however you are dead set on rocking that boat you should go about asking him (and only asking him why) in a roundabout fashion, perhaps using a movie or something as an example.
Good luck.
2007-03-12 05:30:34 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it. I have found (in my 35 years) that guys don't often have such active imaginations as us girls or they are more frightened of looking weird for having those fantasies. They like it when we do things for them or tell them things that we like but for them as long as they are getting it and getting it good that is all that matters.
I have turned this situation into a little detective game because i like to try and see if i can find out things that maybe my partner isn't willing/able to tell me by doing them. He always swore he wouldn't like to see me striptease until I did it and once when I acted out one of my fantasies (I won't tell you what it was if you don't mind) he admitted that he'd wanted to do that but didn't dare ask.
2007-03-09 00:48:24 · answer #4 · answered by Leapling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can only guess that you are already doing everything he likes - I'm sure he re-direct you if you weren't.
2007-03-12 11:41:53 · answer #5 · answered by lynn a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could be something that will grosse you out, or maybe he wants to introduce one of YOUR friends into the bedroom, personally if i was you i'd rather not know, it could ruin everything!
2007-03-09 00:26:55 · answer #6 · answered by Just passing the time! 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your boyfriend my be cheating on you or he is just using u for sex and etc. If you don't and can not trust him then it is not a vary good relationship. Be in a one person relationship is not good all it does is hurt you. He could just not want to tell you because you may not believe him or if your asking him when your around your or his friends he would be one of those tough guy not soft and sweet guys.
2007-03-09 00:24:50 · answer #7 · answered by Samantha J 1 · 0⤊ 4⤋
I wouldn't question it love
2007-03-09 00:34:13 · answer #8 · answered by talia 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he maybe useing you
he maybe one who uses women for sex and nothing more
2007-03-09 00:31:10 · answer #9 · answered by Dr Universe 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ha dont let it worry you
2007-03-09 00:49:14 · answer #10 · answered by skye 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋